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Only me:
Hi

Don't even know where to start I'm still in shock.

BG - I have two roomies, this concerns "RJ" :P, other roomie doesn't play into this situation. We have had problems in the past getting along, simply because of life style choices he has that I don't agree with. Drugs and alcohol plus smokes. RJ and I have a long history which includes the friends to BF/GF living together to roomies. Roomies for about 2 years now. Plus he's always complaining how he has no money and I have problems with levels of disrespect he shows others. Mostly we just live in the same house and run into each other a couple times a week. Also he grew up with rich parents and still hasn't taken the silver spoon out of his mouth AND plays the victim very well. He is supposed to move out in about 6 weeks. end bg.

RJ has been having problems at work and problems with money, with life. I run the household (that's never been in question with either roomie). He got sent home a month ago from work for being drunk. (His work can't prove he was drunk, but can that he smelled recked of alcohol). Last Saturday for some reason he came home without his car. He did call the house, but neither other roomie or I heard the phone ring (most hand sets here are not working, we need new phones). Now he's mad cause he thinks I ignored the phone call on purpose.

He started back to work last Sunday and was going to finish at noon, come home and then drive my mom and I to the airport using her car He was then to detail/clean her car while we were away. It was a paying gig for him, and he does detailing very well.

Well he went to work, came home and popped open some beer. He had 3 and was only home for 30 mins. I got mad and told him to never mind he wasn't driving my mom's car. And how I felf about him drinking especially when he had made a committement to my mom and I. He just did the yeah well I'm disappointed with you...

Anyways I come home and mom's car is detailed. She really likes the job he did, plus she can prove he didn't use her car in place of his (I made her take the mileage on her car before we left). That was last night. Tonight I run into him and stted that my mom loved teh car and since we got home really laste she'd be out on Tuesday to pay him. He then states that the price is "$10.00" more than was agreed to because he had to by some extra stuff to buy something for the car that he didn't have. He also wanted me to even it out with my mom as her payment will just go towards rend, which comes to me.

I am so totally pissed off that I just said nothing. yes its onlly $10 more but the fact taht the price shoud include all treatments.
I really want to leave this between him and my mom, but then again want to sheild my mom from his BS (although she is very aware of what he's like, even sometimes when he shows good quality's). I am leaning towards just sucking it up, having the difference paid by me, but I do want to say something to him.

so what do I say and do I let my mom know what's going on. I think I just need someone else to let me know what wording to use because "up yours" and get out now (not 6 weeks) is what I want to say. 

Feed back would be great...Onlyme

katycoo:
Honestly, for $10 I'd pay him just to make the issue go away.

My priority would be keeping the peace for the next 6 weeks.  I might drop a line along the lines of "next time there's going to be an unexpected increase, we'd appreciate a call in advance of incurring the charge" or something.

MsMarjorie:

--- Quote from: kam0706 on August 29, 2010, 02:42:49 AM ---Honestly, for $10 I'd pay him just to make the issue go away.

My priority would be keeping the peace for the next 6 weeks.  I might drop a line along the lines of "next time there's going to be an unexpected increase, we'd appreciate a call in advance of incurring the charge" or something.

--- End quote ---

Big POD

You only have to get through the next 6 weeks - say it like a mantra "only 6 weeks to go, only 6 weeks to go".

shhh its me:
  Only considering the principle of it depending on what extras he bought he may be entitled to the $10.  IF I agree to mow your lawn and that you will provide the mower if the mower needs gas I would charge you for the gas.  If you agreed to supply the materials and he reasonably need a different one/one more then you provided  then I think he's entitled to the $10.  If you think he's lying that is a different story.

Considering the whole situation even if I though he didn't deserve it . I'd just give him the $10 , you wont have to deal with him in 6 weeks it's not worth arguing about.

Only me:
Hi MM

Big POD

You only have to get through the next 6 weeks - say it like a mantra "only 6 weeks to go, only 6 weeks to go". 

This brought a smile to my face as all I could think was "so do I have to say it to myself or out loud so he can here".  ;D

Thanks all, OM

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