This happened yesterday.
BG: My mother's two closest friends are a married couple who live, roughly five miles away. They and my mother have a mutual friend, whose son is visiting the UK. I've met the father very briefly but I do not know the son. Now mum is away in the Old Country, for summer and I am home alone in a three bedroom house. Mum's friends also have a three bedroomed house but all their rooms are occupied.
Can you see where this is going?
Yesterday afternoon, I noticed a missed call from mum's friend (the wife) she'd called about 8am. when I called her back she told
me that her son was on the way to pick up the Guest, who was returning from Scotland. Her son would be bringing the guest over to stay at our house till he went home on Thursday but not to worry they'd pick him up in the mornings and entertain him etc.
I said, I was was sorry, I did not know of this arrangement and that I'd begun clearing out the whole house (this was true) the house was in not state for guests. Friend says she was sorry, she'd completely forgotton but the state hof the house wouldn't be a problem as guest was just coming to the spare room to *sleep*. To this I said no, not possible. I'm sleeping in the spare room, while clearing out my own room, and I have clutter all over the house. Could he sleep in mum's room? No, not possible.
She seemed dissapointed and a little taken aback and asked if they could come over and help tidy up quickly. To which I said, no this wasn't a quick tidyjob. I was cleaning the whole house. maybe to soften the blow, I said, "had I known earlier I might not have started..."
So she ummed a little and mused that maybe they'd have him sleep in the sitting room or something. I made some agreeing noises end ended the call.
I feel a bit bad for disappointing them but they gave me no notice of this. When mum is here they sometimes ask mum to put up their friends because they have no space. Mum might have agreed to this occaision but I am peeved that no one thought to check if I'd be ok with this while she's not here. He might be their friend but he's a stranger to me.
In fact, the same guy was supposed to stay here in June before going to Scotland and mum texted me two days prior to his arrival. I did tell mum I was not happy with the situation but mum just said things like "but he's a friend" and "we should try and help people". Luckily due to a couple of things, it did not happen.
The other reason I can't handle an unexpected guest is that I hsave been depressed this summer - part of the reason the house is an awful mess, and I can't handle strangers in my house.
So, I've squashed it this time. I'm not sure if it'll work again.