A good friend of mine's husband sent out an invitation by email to her 40th birthday party this morning, being held in a restaurant at dinner hour with munchies being served. Knowing the venue, it will be heavy appetizers that will border on being enough for a meal. Drinks are buy your own. The invite states, 'Best Wishes Only'.
However, this afternoon, friend's sister sent out an email, saying that her sister likes to travel but doesn't get to do enough of it so she will collect donations towards a travel gift certificate and will have a card there on the night for everyone to sign. She made a suggest of $20. It came across a little tacky to me.
$20 is probably pretty close to what this party is costing per head, knowing the venue.
I was going to get friend something and give it to her at another time. But now I feel like I should contribute to this and told sister I would.
So my question is: how much do I kick in? Does it matter if I'm going to make it to the party or not? And does it matter if I bring my (live-in) BF with me to the party, if I do make it?