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« Reply #4980 on: October 26, 2013, 02:20:14 PM »
I agree.  I think a librarian (or anybody) who is in a job in which comments on items might usually be okay, should be aware of purchases that might be a little awkward, and should know not to comment.   Somebody is checking out "The Girls' Body Book," the "Kama Sutra," or the Koran?  No comment.  (With the Koran, they might be religiously Muslim whether they look it or not, or they might be somebody of another religion who is reading it for their edification.  Since you don't know, just about any comment you make could unintentionally be a problem.)  If somebody is in the checkout line, you'd obviously want to refrain from commenting on sanitary napkins, pregnancy tests, or condoms... but also on commenting on athlete's foot cream.  I think medical/sexual/religious/political would be the big things to avoid in a general sense.  And there should definitely be no comments that imply judgment, whether positive or negative ("Wow, you must really like apples!" even).

Agreed.  The only exception, for me, is mentioning when something they're checking out might have objectionable content that's not obvious from the cover - especially when I know it's intended for a child and the parent would have issues with it.  (I had a mom get mad at me for letting her check out "Jersey Girl" because she had no idea it would have "the J word" in it so much.  Took me a while to figure out what she meant.)  I never mentioned it in a judgmental manner, though, just as a heads-up - "That's his one book for adults, by the way, so it's very different than his children's books.  It's very good but very dark."

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« Reply #4981 on: October 26, 2013, 04:04:02 PM »
This week we went to a public library screening of a documentary, all music and images from around the world; people living in different ways, worshipping in different ways, some struggling to survive in a third world country, others living in first world. Very gorgeous documentary IMO. It was PG-13, which I do allow my daughter to watch if I know why it's PG-13. In this case, it was partially nudity (stuff you'd see in a National Geographic) and partially some scenes in a factory farm (the way the animals live, and being packaged for sale, didn't show any actual death). Anyway, afterwards the librarian came to us and expressed that she'd been concerned when she saw a little girl in there, and wanted to make sure she hadn't been scared or traumatized. Want to know what my daughter was scared of the most? Some twisted African trees on the plains, that had funky looking shadows in the moonlight.

We did leave before it was over but that was because she was bored at the length of it (we'd thought it was an hour long, we made it an hour and a half before we left) and I didn't want her to make a scene. Nothing scary or inappropriate was happening when we left and the librarian followed us out. I reassured her several times that we were fine with the content, our goal had been to see a variety of cultures and have to think about our own lives and blessings; mission accomplished. I did appreciate the woman's concern but I also appreciated the fact that she didn't ask my daughter to leave before it began, without ascertaining whether we knew the content or my daughter's maturity. No related bad dreams yet, and we've talked several times about whatever questions pop into her head when she thinks of something she saw in it.

I think we'll be going to documentary night more often. Last month was about bees, but we had to skip it; waiting to find out what next month's topic will be.

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« Reply #4982 on: October 26, 2013, 04:06:25 PM »
Do you recall the name of the film, perchance?
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« Reply #4983 on: October 26, 2013, 04:12:05 PM »
I had to check the library's FB page. It's "Samsara". Definitely excellent to the point that I watched, and I assume the rest is great too.

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« Reply #4984 on: October 26, 2013, 04:34:17 PM »
J-word?  Jersey Girl?

Okay, never read it, but I am picturing some woman being offended by the word "Jersey" - because the only other word I can think of is a very badly mispronounced medical term...not that there aren't a lot of people out there who can and do mispronounce car, cat, dog, and other very short words.....
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« Reply #4985 on: October 26, 2013, 04:47:48 PM »
J-word?  Jersey Girl?

Okay, never read it, but I am picturing some woman being offended by the word "Jersey" - because the only other word I can think of is a very badly mispronounced medical term...not that there aren't a lot of people out there who can and do mispronounce car, cat, dog, and other very short words.....

I'm stumped too - what is the J-word?

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« Reply #4986 on: October 26, 2013, 05:03:01 PM »
J-word?  Jersey Girl?

Okay, never read it, but I am picturing some woman being offended by the word "Jersey" - because the only other word I can think of is a very badly mispronounced medical term...not that there aren't a lot of people out there who can and do mispronounce car, cat, dog, and other very short words.....

I'm stumped too - what is the J-word?

I'm assuming either the other word for donkey that begins with j, or a name for a solo - scrabble event.
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« Reply #4987 on: October 26, 2013, 05:06:52 PM »
Or the Deity's only son.

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« Reply #4988 on: October 26, 2013, 05:22:32 PM »
Or the Deity's only son.

This is it.  Took me a while to figure out what she was talking about, because she was talking about "swearing" in a way I assumed was more "profanity" than "taking the Lord's name in vain."

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« Reply #4989 on: October 26, 2013, 06:07:16 PM »
Or the Deity's only son.

This is it.  Took me a while to figure out what she was talking about, because she was talking about "swearing" in a way I assumed was more "profanity" than "taking the Lord's name in vain."

Off-topic for a moment: I knew someone who bought mainstream DVDs to stock a "family" rental store. He would send them to a company that would edit out the non-family-friendly portions (swearing, nudity, violence) and send back the revised copy. I overheard him saying once that when he pre-screened Jersey Girl after its Bowdlerization (not that he used the term), it was choppy and incoherent, and still not family-friendly.
I said,"You tried cleaning up a Kevin Smith movie? When he's not being profane, he's being obscene or scatological!"
The guy blinked at me. "Aren't profane and obscene the same thing?"
So I explained that, in broad terms, profane referred to the disrespect of the sacred, obscene referred to indecency, and scatological referred to excrement.
So he said "I learned two things today. Profane and obscene aren't the same thing, and I should stay away from Kevin Smith movies."

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« Reply #4990 on: October 26, 2013, 06:09:10 PM »
Is this a book called Jersey Girl (can't find any reference to it online) or the movie?

I've only heard of the Kevin Smith movie and I can't imagine anyone thinking a Kevin Smith movie is something their child would want to watch.

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« Reply #4991 on: October 26, 2013, 08:30:09 PM »
Is this a book called Jersey Girl (can't find any reference to it online) or the movie?

I've only heard of the Kevin Smith movie and I can't imagine anyone thinking a Kevin Smith movie is something their child would want to watch.

The movie.  Although I learned after that to mention if I knew anything about the movies she was letting her kids pick out, because often she'd take offense at the oddest little things.  (Not unheard-of things, just "I can't believe one person could be offended by everything on this list and still be willing to try watching movies" odd.)

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« Reply #4992 on: October 26, 2013, 08:59:14 PM »
Is this a book called Jersey Girl (can't find any reference to it online) or the movie?

I've only heard of the Kevin Smith movie and I can't imagine anyone thinking a Kevin Smith movie is something their child would want to watch.

The movie.  Although I learned after that to mention if I knew anything about the movies she was letting her kids pick out, because often she'd take offense at the oddest little things.  (Not unheard-of things, just "I can't believe one person could be offended by everything on this list and still be willing to try watching movies" odd.)

I still remember a friend from high school who would use India ink to black out sentences that she felt were "out of bounds".  One book that I borrowed had the better part of two pages blacked out.

I never could figure out a major plot point because the set up for it had been UNDER the ink - I never did figure out the main character's movitivation, because apparently the other sentences here & there in the book that were blacked out referred back to those two pages.  Nothing made any sense...
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« Reply #4993 on: October 26, 2013, 09:17:35 PM »
Is this a book called Jersey Girl (can't find any reference to it online) or the movie?

I've only heard of the Kevin Smith movie and I can't imagine anyone thinking a Kevin Smith movie is something their child would want to watch.

The movie.  Although I learned after that to mention if I knew anything about the movies she was letting her kids pick out, because often she'd take offense at the oddest little things.  (Not unheard-of things, just "I can't believe one person could be offended by everything on this list and still be willing to try watching movies" odd.)

I still remember a friend from high school who would use India ink to black out sentences that she felt were "out of bounds".  One book that I borrowed had the better part of two pages blacked out.

I never could figure out a major plot point because the set up for it had been UNDER the ink - I never did figure out the main character's movitivation, because apparently the other sentences here & there in the book that were blacked out referred back to those two pages.  Nothing made any sense...

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« Reply #4994 on: October 26, 2013, 10:37:01 PM »
Is this a book called Jersey Girl (can't find any reference to it online) or the movie?

I've only heard of the Kevin Smith movie and I can't imagine anyone thinking a Kevin Smith movie is something their child would want to watch.

The movie.  Although I learned after that to mention if I knew anything about the movies she was letting her kids pick out, because often she'd take offense at the oddest little things.  (Not unheard-of things, just "I can't believe one person could be offended by everything on this list and still be willing to try watching movies" odd.)

I still remember a friend from high school who would use India ink to black out sentences that she felt were "out of bounds".  One book that I borrowed had the better part of two pages blacked out.

I never could figure out a major plot point because the set up for it had been UNDER the ink - I never did figure out the main character's movitivation, because apparently the other sentences here & there in the book that were blacked out referred back to those two pages.  Nothing made any sense...

Including the friend in question!

She probably remembered what she'd blacked out to get the plot point.  But in protecting everyone else from whatever was under the ink in her copy, she ruined the story.

I never did find another copy of that book at the local bookstore...that I can recall.  I no longer rememer enough to go looking for it ( cover, title, author, character, etc.).  Loosing the two pages lost too much momentum as I tried to figure things out..

And rather than protecting me from whatever was in there, I started trying to figure it out, looking for another copy at the used book store.
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