Wouldn't it be more polite to assume the best of the person and offer assistance in finding their answer or simply saying it was just the sharing of a story?
I find that there is a lot of "Shouldn't we just assume the best of people?" in this forum. Trying to find every possible loophole that someone's action wasn't rude does ignore the possibility, often very strong, that they were rude and that the rudeness was not justified by their intentions. I'd rather not make assumptions about believing the best of people without evidence that they were acting for the best.
And, I'd rather not look for evidence in a simple sentence, that they intended to be rude. I think it's polite to assume the best until you can prove the opposite.
Instead of trying to read rudeness in a question, or censor what phrases people can use, why not just assume that the person asking the question is not doing it to be rude? What harm is there in that? It's *not* trying to find a loophole, it's about not looking to be offended.
It's quicker to answer the question and move on then it is to debate what people can and can't say, how they can or can't say it, whether they meant harm or not, whether they were being snarky or not.
Why not just answer? "The etiquette question is this." or "There really is no etiquette question, it's just a situation I thought was worth discussing." Boom, that's it. If a MOD thinks the discussion should be locked, they'll lock it, if they think it needs to be moved, they'll move it.
Can it just be that the person who says it is doing it because that's what they thought we're supposed to do? I've been on this forum since 2007 and I've gotten that comment tons of times so if I used it on anyone who got offended by it, I'm sorry, but I thought it was the "norm"... I have also notified the mods on some posts where I don't feel commenting would be the best option so it's probably and even mix....
I think the bolded makes a great point and I agree that it very well *could* be that the person thinks that is what they are supposed to do. After all, those sections of the forum are mainly filled with threads that have etiquette questions.
Why assume malice? Even if you do, why not just ignore it, answer the question politely and move on? I find that when people are intentionally trying to be rude, that a polite, civil response often takes the wind right out of their sails.