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MerryRaven

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Toxic FIL
« on: December 24, 2006, 08:06:34 PM »
Warning.   This a rant about my FIL and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

So my daughter arrived from England with her husband during one of the worst storms in Seattle history.  She was one of the last flights to make it in. 

The power went out in our hotel at about 1 AM

At 9 AM the next day without heat, light or hot water we left the  hotel and went up I-5 toward Bellingham where my other daughter, her DH and my grand-daughter live until we could see lights on the side of the freeway.  We were able to get gas and coffee then. 

We spent a couple of days so my daughters could visit and my youngest could see her neice for the first time.

My DH's Father and Step-Mother live along 1-90 in a rural area.  Their power was out.  My BIL and SIL live near them and their power was out.  BIL had to go check on FIL because their phones were out too.  News reports were discouraging, so instead of stopping and seeing them the next day as we had originally planed, we took the other route home. 

It took us 5 days to get in touch with FIL to try to make arrangements so he could see daughter before she and husband had to leave for England.

He won't speak to my DH. 
We call and he hangs up on us. 
We heard through the family grapevine that he is insulted because we are "keeping our daughter from him."  He seems to think we put her on the plane back to England without making an effort for her to see him.???!!!!

I had daughter call him.  He still would not speak to my DH.  And he hung up on her.

So on Christmas Eve he is mad about something that didn't even happen???!!! 
And he is going to take it out on my daughter who is the reason he is mistakenly in a snit in the first place because she is trying to make arrangements to see him???

Before she was hung up on, she wished him a Merry Christmas.  He said "we aren't celebrating this year because this year has been stressful."  She said "That's too bad, I hope things are better for you in the new year."

That is when he hung up on her.

I would say he is getting senile except we have been "out of favor" before.  One time he wouldn't talk to us for two years and I never knew why, then he shows up out of the blue like nothing ever happened.

I told my DH to not let his father ruin his Christmas.




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Re: Toxic FIL
« Reply #1 on: December 24, 2006, 08:35:36 PM »
Merry Raven, major hugs to you and your husband for putting up with this.  i had a FIL like this too.  if everything wasn't about him, he made sure it would be, or the rest of the world would be miserable.  you're right, nothing will change him. 

i hope your DH understands that, and can enjoy his time with his daughter before she goes back to England.

much love and  :-*

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Re: Toxic FIL
« Reply #2 on: December 25, 2006, 12:00:27 AM »
*hugs*

I hope your DH doesn't let his father affect your holiday.  Hugs to him, too!