I get really really annoyed when people say "It takes a village" to guilt people into giving money to raise their own child.
I get annoyed because I do believe "it takes a village" but that doesn't mean that village pitches in cash! It takes a village, refers to the people who will be around the child and influence the child and help raise the child. I wouldn't be who I am without the "village" that raised me. And it has nothing to do with money, it was my exposure to them, their influence on me! I don't even have a kid, but I've already started the "village" that will help "raise" my future child. I don't expect one thin dime from them. But I look forward to them teaching and influencing my future offspring in so many ways because they are such fantastic people with a lot to offer!
People who use "it takes a village" to coerce their friends/family/co-workers/perfect strangers to pitch in cash for Jr's summer home, ruin it for the rest of us who understand what it actually means.
I'm with you! I totally buy the *original* "takes a village* thing.
To me, it's not necessarily the "village" that raises you, i.e., your grandparents, etc.--it's the "village" that creates the community you grow up in.
Schools (complete, yes with taxes for them), libraries, medical care, clean water, children's & teen activities, tolerance of the presence of children & patience with their work-in-progress development along with an reasonably express intolerance of bad behavior and expectation of achievement and contribution, proper modeling of appropriate adult behavior.
That's the village that it takes, in my mind.
So when people misuse it, it makes me crabby.
The other aspect of the "village" is reciprocity. Which is, in fact, the bedrock of all social order and etiquette. We are supposed to look out for each other - mutually.
It's like the Bible verses "bear one another's burdens" and "each should carry his own load". They do not contradict. Your load is your ordinary stuff of life - you do your laundry, you make your living, you take care of your kids basic needs. I do the same for mine.
Then when the tornado knocks your house down, or a devastating illness takes my spouse, or somebody breaks a leg - those are burdens, and we show up to bear each others burdens. Which we are able to do, because we have been taking care of ourselves in a reasonable way all along.
I seriously doubt someone who misuses "it takes a village" to beg other people to fund their child's existence, is going to show up and be the village for anyone else.