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Author Topic: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?  (Read 464 times)

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whiterose

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A popular message board closes due to the owner going back to school and not being able to maintain it.

A few years later, the owner (Drake) decides to open it again.

There was one user (Gina) who was very popular with fellow users, but did not get along with the moderators. Owner and moderators have decided it is for the best that Gina does not return. Gina is still friends with people met through that message board- but would not be aware of the board's return unless explicitly informed.

What is most polite and ethical way for Drake to inform Gina that she is not welcome to return?

A) Drake contacts Gina privately (email, Facebook instant messenger, private message through another internet forum Gina frequents) and lets her know that the message board is opening again but that she is banned.

B) Drake contacts Gina in a public way (comment on Gina's public blog, starting a topic at another message board Gina frequents) and lets her know.

C) Drake waits until Gina tries to join, then privately lets her know that she is not welcome back.

D) Drake posts a public post on the board stating that Gina is not welcome back.

E) Drake has a staff member who is still friends with Gina inform her (privately or publicly) that the site will be re-opening but that she is not welcome to rejoin.

F) Drake creates an account using Gina's username and puts it on "detention" status in order to let Gina know she is not welcome anymore.


Which of these options is the one most approved by etiquette (and ethics)? Which one would be optimal? Is there another possibility that is even better?
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Alicia

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Re: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?
« Reply #1 on: Yesterday at 07:41:10 AM »
C

CaffeineKatie

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Re: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?
« Reply #2 on: Yesterday at 08:11:40 AM »
Yep, I'd go with C as well.  It may be a non-problem, if Gina isn't interested in the board any longer, so why stir up trouble by banning her in advance by any method.

pattycake

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Re: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?
« Reply #3 on: Yesterday at 09:17:11 AM »
Yep, I'd go with C as well.  It may be a non-problem, if Gina isn't interested in the board any longer, so why stir up trouble by banning her in advance by any method.

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maksi

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Re: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?
« Reply #4 on: Yesterday at 10:28:14 AM »
C, and in any case absolutely no public announcing. All the other possibilities are just inviting unnecessary drama and to be quite honest: seem pretty petty.

GardenGal

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Re: Message board returning- how to inform old users of status?
« Reply #5 on: Yesterday at 08:06:40 PM »
Another vote for option C here.  And no need to be public about it.