I've thought about this blog post, and it really bothers me because there IS such a thing as "Mom Bullying" and she could have written a real message about that, but instead she wrote about her own complete lack of rational thinking.
Some Mom Bully Thoughts:
Moms compete. We all know this, and we tend to accept it by entering into motherhood in the first place. We compete over whose child is the smartest, the best athlete, the best looking, and more. The difference between the moms who compete because they are moms and moms who compete because they are bullies comes out in their responses.
My daughter recently turned three. She loves to wear makeup, jewelry, and pretty dresses. However, she attends a preschool that requires uniforms, so the pretty dresses are out. She's only three, so makeup is not a daily practice. That leaves jewelry. Sometimes she loads up the plastic bracelets and princess charms, other times she forgets or just wants to be free to rough house a bit. In her class is another little girl, Madysyn. Madysyn wears jewelry every single day, and she looks lovely. Still, every morning Madysyn's mother comes on, verbally admires her own daughter's accessories, and then makes a point of saying, "Oh, look, Madysyn. RoseyCheeks (or another little girl) isn't wearing her
jewelry today." Perhaps you'd have to hear her tone, but it speaks volumes that she feels called to point out what other children don't have on a daily basis. She gets personal bonus points if she can do this in front of the other child's mother.
Next comes the Working Moms versus the Stay At Home Moms. Most WMs and SAHMs seem to feel they've made their choices and do okay. However, there is always the one WM who makes a point of discussing her "contribution to society" in a way that denigrates a SAHM's contribution by raising her children full-time. As a working mom, I heard this lecture against SAHM from a physician first. Next I found myself in a Bible study class where I was a few minutes late. Upon my arrival, the other women gathered together to ask me if I wouldn't prefer to raise my own child "if I could." I asked for explanation, sure I was wrong in my initial assumptions, and they explained that "it must be so hard for [me] to have to let daycare teachers raise [my] child" and "surely [ I ] would want to raise her myself IF [ I ] could." If I could? So not only are they insulting my parenting practices, but they are assuming that I work only because my husband can't afford to pay for his family himself?
There's more, but this is a start. This is how I would write a blog about mom bullies and, patting my own back here, I think it would send a much bigger message than Winokur's own collection of "woe is me" sentiments. Of course, maybe I am bullying her by not being more sympathetic.
Edited to get rid of italics.