I think there is also a line between social pressure and bullying. Social pressure can be healthy and it's a pretty big party of etiquette's "hammer". The other mother's don't like me because I don't wear designer jogging suites to drop off my child is not the same as the other mothers don't like me because I wear my slept in pajamas , no shoes, don't wash my face before bed or in the morning, and don't finish dressing my child before we leave the house, expect acomadation etc. There's a point were I'm just such a mess people should notice that I'm not functioning. Now, is tsk tsking the way to go? but what do you do when someone thinks you just want to rubber neck if you try to calm them? how do you talk to someone who think your a judgemetal bully because you're worried they seem to overwhelmed? how do you treat someone who expects accommodations but not to be noticed at the same time?