"You're going to get fat if you eat that."

[M-theory]

I think I'm so fat that people have given up commenting on my food choices when I eat in public. I don't even get dirty looks. Coke, falafel-flavored wheat snacks, beef jerky; you name it, I eat it in public and no one ever makes a peep. And I'm grateful.

[Itzpapalotl]

I think he was definitely using the "insult/hit-on" method. I don't understand why any sane or intelligent man (or woman) would use this method to pick up chicks. I recently moved to an area where this is a typical come-on; Make a disparaging comment on the lady's outfit/skills/food or beverage, then follow up with a "I guess your choice is not SO BAD. "

It's nice to be older, wiser, and walk away with a smile.

[TeamBhakta]

Yes, cause I always trust people who insult me, then make jokes. Oh wait. I don't. 

I trust people who are straightforward, so in the context of flirting, I'd trust someone who says "Hi, my name is [whatever]" and starts a conversation. It is amazing that all these men are paying for seduction courses and didn't think of the simplest approach, as in - you want trust, you act trustworthy. And now I need a facepalm smiley too.

Reminds me of this guy J. I knew in college. He told us girls "I'm more likely to get a response to my dating profile if I'm standing with a woman in my profile photo. It makes women kind of annoyed but intrigued and a little jealous at the same time."

[Skoffin]

I've had people make such remarks to me, even when I was only about 40kgs (due to a long illness)
On one occasion I just replied "That's the whole point" 

[Iris]

I'm past the dating age, but my daughter will be hitting it in a few years. I think the 'neg' approach is brilliant. It will allow her to weed out the revolting guys that you would not want to know with their very first comment 

[CG]

Reminds me of this guy J. I knew in college. He told us girls "I'm more likely to get a response to my dating profile if I'm standing with a woman in my profile photo. It makes women kind of annoyed but intrigued and a little jealous at the same time."

It also warns the sane ones to stay away.  Guess what kind he probably picks up?

[LadyPekoe]

Negging works REALLY well on some girls.  I've known smart, interesting, smoking hot girls who dated guys who did this--so it's not just idiots that fall for it.  I've had guys try to do it to me before and I usually neg them right back--except I'm not trying to pick them up.

[chibichan]

"You're going to get fat if you eat that ."

" You're going to get hurt if you keep talking to me . "

Sorry , I have NO tolerance for these idiots .

[princess91765]

"You're going to get fat if you eat that ."

" You're going to get hurt if you keep talking to me . "
Sorry , I have NO tolerance for these idiots .

I love this response! 

[Twik]

"and you're going to get your ___ kicked if you keep saying that to people."  

Works for me.

[ladymaureen]

I bet you're right, he was trying to pick you up. But it's interesting that he was using the body policing that women suffer every day as an icebreaker. Jerk.

Women in general get the food police, and the body police, and the ... whatever police. What we look like, eat, say ...
In my case, I am a larger woman, and frankly I avoid eating in public because then I am A Fat Woman Eating In Public. Sigh.

[Jan74]

In my case, I am a larger woman, and frankly I avoid eating in public because then I am A Fat Woman Eating In Public. Sigh.

But as this thread has shown us, a thin woman eating in public is a Future Fat Woman Eating in Public. Women should learn from Scarlett O'Hara and just not eat more than bird-sized bites, ever. Make that bird-sized bites of lettuce, no dressing. 

[boxy]

Are most of you posters in the UK? 

I'm only asking because as a woman of size I haven't had anyone give me grief when I've eaten in public.  Just curious.

Also want to be prepared if I ever make it across the pond....

[aventurine]

From a brief perusal of those links and a quick conversation with Lapis, I'm convinced that the tools who use these lines don't care about a relationship.  They're just looking to pick someone up for the night.  I'm astonished that women with a modicum of experience or self-esteem can't see right through this and laugh in the jerk's face.

[Twik]

From a brief perusal of those links and a quick conversation with Lapis, I'm convinced that the tools who use these lines don't care about a relationship.  They're just looking to pick someone up for the night.  I'm astonished that women with a modicum of experience or self-esteem can't see right through this and laugh in the jerk's face.

Probably they do on a regular basis, but you'll notice that these men don't care, as long as one desperate woman actually falls for their ploy once a night. They don't actually *like* women, and usually reserve very derogatory names for them, even while desperately trying to score with them. It may strike the saner members of the human race rather strange that they deride women behind their backs for having the poor taste to sleep with them, but such are the ways of the would-be pick-up artist.