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Author Topic: 'If you don't wear your wedding ring you are a woman of questionable character.'  (Read 52639 times)

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Auntie Mame

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Oh so that explains it!  Everytime I leave the house I am chased by mobs of men making cat calls and trying to tear off my clothes.  I don't have a wedding ring!  I couldn't figure out what was going on, I had no idea I was a floozy and advertising it everytime I left my house.
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Oh so that explains it!  Everytime I leave the house I am chased by mobs of men making cat calls and trying to tear off my clothes.  I don't have a wedding ring!  I couldn't figure out what was going on, I had no idea I was a floozy and advertising it everytime I left my house.
Crudbunnies, I need a Monitor Mop after this one!

The only time I've ever heard anyone use the term "floozy" is a former exotic dancer friend of mine (long story) whose stage name was Susie the Floozie.  Okay, maybe I've heard it on "Prairie Home Companion" during a sketch or two, but never in normal conversation!

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Oh please.  ::) Our rings are so huge and conspicuous that my friends make LOTR jokes about it in a Gollum voice. It is that big and yellow and shiny. And it does NOT stop men from hitting on me, and my husband can attest it does not stop women from hitting on him. Also, my other friend said he never got so many women hitting on him even at stoplights as when he had his son's car seat in the car, visibly.

So... I wish this world where people thought "ring = must not hit on" existed. The only way to repel male advances, even at my age, is to go out in sweatpants. Now that works!  >:D

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Oh please.  ::) Our rings are so huge and conspicuous that my friends make LOTR jokes about it in a Gollum voice. It is that big and yellow and shiny. And it does NOT stop men from hitting on me, and my husband can attest it does not stop women from hitting on him. Also, my other friend said he never got so many women hitting on him even at stoplights as when he had his son's car seat in the car, visibly.

So... I wish this world where people thought "ring = must not hit on" existed. The only way to repel male advances, even at my age, is to go out in sweatpants. Now that works!  >:D

Oooh, yes.  Last weekend, I was wending my way out of a bar & grill type place, when some guy stopped me, fixed me with this sad gaze, and said (LAMENESS ALERT), "I've never kissed a redhead before...."  Ugh.  I flashed him my engagement ring and said, "Sorry, taken!"  He then proceeded to look offended and showed me HIS wedding ring.  Um.  Dude.  Seriously?

I just turned and walked away, as anything that could have possibly come out of my mouth at that point would have been snarktastic more than a little rude.

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Oooh, yes.  Last weekend, I was wending my way out of a bar & grill type place, when some guy stopped me, fixed me with this sad gaze, and said (LAMENESS ALERT), "I've never kissed a redhead before...."  Ugh.  I flashed him my engagement ring and said, "Sorry, taken!"  He then proceeded to look offended and showed me HIS wedding ring.  Um.  Dude.  Seriously?

I just turned and walked away, as anything that could have possibly come out of my mouth at that point would have been snarktastic more than a little rude.

The standard reply I've gotten to "I'm married" is "That's ok baby, I'm not jealous". I need a vomiting smiley here for that one.   ::)

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Oooh, yes.  Last weekend, I was wending my way out of a bar & grill type place, when some guy stopped me, fixed me with this sad gaze, and said (LAMENESS ALERT), "I've never kissed a redhead before...."  Ugh.  I flashed him my engagement ring and said, "Sorry, taken!"  He then proceeded to look offended and showed me HIS wedding ring.  Um.  Dude.  Seriously?

I just turned and walked away, as anything that could have possibly come out of my mouth at that point would have been snarktastic more than a little rude.

The standard reply I've gotten to "I'm married" is "That's ok baby, I'm not jealous". I need a vomiting smiley here for that one.   ::)

Ick! 

There are some people in this world who are in dire need of a shrimp fork to the spleen.  Alas, that would be rude, so we'll just have to practice our silent looks of utter disgust.

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OP, I think you handled it perfectly.  You didn't make a rude comeback and you didn't make a scene.  You just removed yourself from an offensive situation quickly and quietly.  And bonus, you even got your point across to the other woman.

Also, I secretly love the word floozy.  It's one of those words that seems so old-fashioned and anachronistic, it makes me laugh.


I'm not even married, so I don't have a wedding ring...what would she have said about that?  That I need to get married to the first creep who asks me just to have a ring on my finger?

Sadly, she probably does think that.  She sounds like she of the generation/upbringing that a woman should get married ASAP to the first man who asks.


The standard reply I've gotten to "I'm married" is "That's ok baby, I'm not jealous". I need a vomiting smiley here for that one.   ::)

I think that would have me laughing so hard that the "gentleman" in question would eventually slink away.

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The standard reply I've gotten to "I'm married" is "That's ok baby, I'm not jealous". I need a vomiting smiley here for that one.   ::)

I think that would have me laughing so hard that the "gentleman" in question would eventually slink away.

Oh they do slink away with even just an eye roll. That is the one advantage of the kind of guy who hits on married women: they are not persistent at all. The ones that hit on me when I was single kept on it for much longer.

Minmom3

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And you know what?  That's just sad.  She must be really in a twist to lash out like that to you, who I don't think she knows well?
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I regret to advise that my girl cat got the nickname Floozie, and it has been used to often that she will respond to it.

OP, I'm sorry that this lady is having a go at you because of something which someone else is doing.
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I wear 7 rings. I'm one of the most virtuous people on this board.


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Hanna

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So anyone that actually isn't married (and thus doesn't wear a ring is a floozie?

What a nutjob!

I think you handled it admirably.  I probably would have told her that only people of questionable character would think such a thing, then moved far away from her, leaving her to realize that I had just called her own character into question.

hot_shaker

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So anyone that actually isn't married (and thus doesn't wear a ring) is a floozie?

What a nutjob!

What's worse is that she's calling the single woman a floozie while her son, the cheater, was clearly led astray by her ringless fingers ::).

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Piratelvr1121

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Heck I've known some women (or men) to be drawn more to someone wearing a ring than one who isn't.   I figure either 1. they figure either they know that since the person's married there's no worry about a commitment or 2. they really like a challenge.
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MRSW

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You know...there are so many reasons that I can think of that would stop a person from wearing a wedding ring, and being loose is at the very bottom of the list.

Neither of my grandparents, who are among the most committed and loving people I know, wear rings.  Like the OP, my grandma has sensitive skin and they would cause her to break out.  She does own a wedding set, but does not wear it.  Grandpa worked for 40 years with machinery, and it was downright dangerous to wear one.  He couldn't readjust to it after retirement, and still doesn't wear it.

A couple I know, who are nearly as sickeningly in love as my grandparents (I swear...they each think the other hung the moon), don't wear them either.  Keith works with machinery and Tiffany is pregnant with their first so hers won't fit.

That said, though, I don't know that I would have gotten offended.  It's one of those absurd statements that would just have me rolling my eyes.  I probably would have amused myself by getting her to define floozy or explaiing why it's different for men (i.e. the ones who work on machinery) or what an unmarried woman/man should do to protect one's virtue until such a time as they could rightfully wear a ring.