My sister loves sarcasm. Often, her sarcasm feels to me like hostility, because her sarcasm is often directed at me. I have (once) tried asking her to be less sarcastic toward me, pointing out that her comments were turning a little too biting and were hurtful. She basically responded by letting me know that no, they weren’t hurtful, and to prove it she spent the next several minutes saying increasingly hurtful things to me.
Since then, I deal with her by trying to ignore the sarcasm in her statements and pretending that I’m having a normal conversation with her.
The other day she posted a question on Facebook asking about what my 2-year-old daughter wanted for Christmas. Her initial message was, “Peanut likes music, so should I get her [list of musical instruments known to create a giant racket]? I’m sure you’d love to hear that!”
I responded as if the question were simply, “Should I get Peanut a musical instrument for Christmas?” and replied that there’s a small percussion instrument she’d enjoy. Or, I told her, she always loves a good book.
Her response was to ask if she’s ready for Tolstoy.
I responded that she likes books aimed at 4-to-8-year olds with a strong main character, and that a book from a series would be good so that she can continue following a character if she likes her. I suggested a series she doesn’t have but would probably like.
Her response was to mention a couple of obviously not-kid-appropriate comic book artists, because those are a series and there’s always new material there. I didn’t respond.
I’m done with her treating me like I’m her straight man and she’s the funniest person on earth. I feel like she thinks she’s so clever and I’m just an idiot to be mocked.
How do I deal with her? I love my sister, but the sarcasm has to stop.