Part of me wants to know WHY she thinks "all men cheat". None of the men I know(or have known--some of them have died.) would EVER cheat on their wives(or their fiancees, or their girlfriends)!
I agree, I think it speaks volumes about her lifestyle choices rather than anything else. She is obviously a very bitter person.
I often wonder how these women would react if a man announced loudly to them that all women were cheating, lying, so-and-sos who can’t be trusted. I imagine they’d take offence on such a stupid generalization.
I had a friend that would also tell any woman in her acquaintance that "all men cheat", Apparently, every time our OHs went for a beer with their friends, and the GF wasn't invited, then they would actually be out with another woman. Even if a girl commented that she’d had flowers from her OH, this friend would announce loudly “he’s probably doing it out of guilt”.
Needless to say, the ladies who she said this to, (and many times hardly knew) were extremely put out that she was making such horrible and totally unfounded accusations against men she had never even met, and stopped hanging around with us. This soon meant that our social group dwindled considerably.
Her basis for this? Two of her long term boyfriends had cheated on her. And other relationships
had fizzled out as a result of “him flirting”. She was then long term single, and very bitter indeed.
In the end, when she began accusing my boyfriend of obviously cheating on me (he’d been out with his family), I’m afraid I lost my temper, and pointed out that the only common denominator in this cheating saga was not “all men”, it was simply her.
The problem was she would always pick a guy that had to be the centre of attention, overly obsessed with their appearance and most definitely the biggest flirt in the room. She had always said that other men (i.e. ones we went out with) were boring, and she needed a man who was a challenge. And she was surprised when they continued their behavior with her. Seriously?
Am afraid our friendship fizzled out after this confrontation. She took my challenge as “its just you men want to cheat on, there is something wrong with you”, which wasn’t what I meant at all, but I think she was so ready to believe it, that I wonder if this was the reason for all the bitterness after all.