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Whether your SIL realizes it or not, those little mumbles inside her head show a distinct judgmental attitude on her part. I don't really give her all that many points for staying silent. I think it's the least she could have done.Why does she have to say that to herself at all? Can't she just say thank you?Not everyone who has gained weight since high school is a sloth who doesn't exercise and eats butter every day.
Quote from: Shoo on November 17, 2010, 11:08:33 AMWhether your SIL realizes it or not, those little mumbles inside her head show a distinct judgmental attitude on her part. I don't really give her all that many points for staying silent. I think it's the least she could have done.Why does she have to say that to herself at all? Can't she just say thank you?Not everyone who has gained weight since high school is a sloth who doesn't exercise and eats butter every day.I think you are taking a mental comment by the SIL that was directed inwards and twisting it to hurt your feelings. This wasn't about anybody else. The SIL keeps herself thin by excerising every day and watching her diet closely. Other people are ascribing her body shape to luck. She knows it was/is hard work to keep at weight/level of health that makes her happy. She never said anything about what steps other people need to take.
She said she had to stop herself from being rude all night. Why is that?Maybe it's just the wording in the OP. Or maybe I'm taking it wrong. But the impression I got from the OP is that the SIL was mentally comparing herself and her habits to those she suspected in those who complimented her. Sort of like, if you exercised every day and gave up butter, you'd be thin too.
Quote from: Shoo on November 17, 2010, 11:21:26 AMShe said she had to stop herself from being rude all night. Why is that?Maybe it's just the wording in the OP. Or maybe I'm taking it wrong. But the impression I got from the OP is that the SIL was mentally comparing herself and her habits to those she suspected in those who complimented her. Sort of like, if you exercised every day and gave up butter, you'd be thin too.Right, which is sadly not true. There are plenty of people who work out and eat well and still can't be as thin as they were in high school.