Back in graduate school, there was a posting about a position in a clinic, and if you wanted to learn more about the position, leave your name and number with X. So I did, and about a week later, I get a call wanting to set me up for a job interview. Wait, what? I wanted to find out what the job entailed (posting had absolutely no job details), and MAYBE apply if I was interested. I should have refused the interview, but I didn't. The interview was a mess, because they kept asking how my skills meshed with what they needed, and I didn't have the guts to blurt out the truth: I have no idea, I don't even know what you do! My feedback which was relayed to the head of my department was that I seemed very unsure how to present myself in an interview situation. No kidding. That never happened again. The one time I was unsure of the details going in, I made the interviewer sell me on the job. I didn't take it either.
relationships: I should have cut my losses a long time before I did with my longest relationship. A real turning point for me was when I had won a trip to Scotland, and he agreed to pick me up at the airport. While in Scotland, I bought a collection of those little bottles of alcohol, all different and all single malt Scotches. I thought it was the perfect gift because he did drink Scotch, and this was the cream of the Scotland distilleries.
So he picks me up, and I excitedly show him my gift. He asked me if I had a good time. I barely get a chance to say yes before he launches into a rant about how broke he's been for the past two weeks, and he hates being broke, and it's great I had fun because he sure didn't (because he was broke, in case I hadn't picked up on that). As he is complaining, I watch as he opens bottle after tiny bottle of the finest Scotch on the planet and chugs it. I should have saved my money and bought him nail polish remover, because he wasn't tasting a thing.
That was his life, drinking, getting high, in search of the perfect intoxication, and complaining that he was broke (because his money went on alcohol and drugs). I am so much happier now with my cat!