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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #945 on: April 08, 2013, 08:40:22 PM »
Rule 2 is just weird... every kid I've known with a little sibling seems pretty ecstatic over it. At least until lil' sibling learns to bite/steal toys/walk.

It's amusing (and a little bit scary) to read old magazines where they have advice from the experts of early 20th century, regarding psychology, health and child care. Some of the suggestions seem almost deliberately perverse to our eyes. And yet, people followed them, because they were considered scientifically proven. Surely, the experts knew what they were talking about, right?

It makes me wonder what we do these days that, years later, people will be saying, "Ewww, I can't believe they told parents to do THAT, and the parents believed them!"
My mother used that very argument to try and dissuade me from following our pediatrician's advice on a matter. As she pointed out, at the time she took that doctor's advice it was presented to her as "scientific" and yet with hindsight, common sense should have told her that it was just stupid. I had the lightbulb moment and realized she was correct about that and that our ped's advice was stupid, just as hers had been.

Sometimes I don't think the advice itself is wrong, so much as that it doesn't apply to all children, and they seem to imply that it does and if it doesn't work on yours, something is wrong with you.  I remember with my first baby, all the books said, "Put the baby down to sleep when he's sleepy but awake, then he'll learn to fall asleep on his own."  They never said what to do when the baby started screaming, as of course most babies do.  Then when I had my second baby, it was like... "Ohhhh, this is the baby the books are all talking about!  Magical angel sleeping baby, apparently that's the only baby the pediatricians have ever heard of."

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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #946 on: April 09, 2013, 02:32:21 PM »
But some of the early (particularly the psychology) is scary, to the point of abusiveness. In the twenties, one of the leading lights of "modern thinking about childrearing" did a lot of ranting about the permanent harm mothers did to their children - by kissing them. I think this said more about him then about mothers and babies.
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« Reply #947 on: April 09, 2013, 02:51:36 PM »
But some of the early (particularly the psychology) is scary, to the point of abusiveness. In the twenties, one of the leading lights of "modern thinking about childrearing" did a lot of ranting about the permanent harm mothers did to their children - by kissing them. I think this said more about him then about mothers and babies.
Exactly. One of the other idiot pieces of advice this doctor gave my mother was that when your kid reaches the age of 5, it's time to stop hugging, kissing and cuddling them. So at the age of 5, my  mother and father abruptly withdrew all physical expressions of affection AND had a baby that I was not allowed to go near, but watched them hugging, kissing and cuddling. This was not a good thing for me.

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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #948 on: April 09, 2013, 03:37:07 PM »
What is this, Sparta? Were you preparing for your child to leave for battle training?

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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #949 on: April 09, 2013, 03:53:04 PM »
But some of the early (particularly the psychology) is scary, to the point of abusiveness. In the twenties, one of the leading lights of "modern thinking about childrearing" did a lot of ranting about the permanent harm mothers did to their children - by kissing them. I think this said more about him then about mothers and babies.
Exactly. One of the other idiot pieces of advice this doctor gave my mother was that when your kid reaches the age of 5, it's time to stop hugging, kissing and cuddling them. So at the age of 5, my  mother and father abruptly withdrew all physical expressions of affection AND had a baby that I was not allowed to go near, but watched them hugging, kissing and cuddling. This was not a good thing for me.

That's horrible! I'm 46, I can still get cuddles from my mom. I hope someone given you all the cuddles you missed.

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« Reply #950 on: April 09, 2013, 05:08:48 PM »
That's so sad.  :(  I hug my teenage daughters every chance I get, even when they're rolling their eyes and trying to escape!

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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #951 on: April 09, 2013, 05:35:51 PM »
But some of the early (particularly the psychology) is scary, to the point of abusiveness. In the twenties, one of the leading lights of "modern thinking about childrearing" did a lot of ranting about the permanent harm mothers did to their children - by kissing them. I think this said more about him then about mothers and babies.
Exactly. One of the other idiot pieces of advice this doctor gave my mother was that when your kid reaches the age of 5, it's time to stop hugging, kissing and cuddling them. So at the age of 5, my  mother and father abruptly withdrew all physical expressions of affection AND had a baby that I was not allowed to go near, but watched them hugging, kissing and cuddling. This was not a good thing for me.

That might be one of the most heartbreaking things I've ever read.

A friend of mine was RECENTLY told to stop nursing her sons at three weeks because after that age its "No better than formula and will make the boys develop perverse fetishes."

Yeah, at 23 months, 23 months,(twins) and 19 months they're all kinda leaning towards weaning but seem to be perfectly normal babies. Well, the youngest eats bugs if he can catch them, but we can't trace that to over-nursing.

On siblings hating one another: When she brought home her 2nd born (2nd daughter) she says she worried slightly about whether her oldest(3-5 years old or so) would be upset by the baby, but figured it'd be ok.

Three months of uneventful life later, she heard Baby giggling and ran in to see why her daughter was having her first laugh... because her big sister stuffed her (padded with blankets and towels) in a fruit box and was dragging her around the living room carpet. When asked why she though this was appropriate behavior with Little Sister, Big Sister responded.

"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"
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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #952 on: April 09, 2013, 05:57:32 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

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« Reply #953 on: April 09, 2013, 06:08:37 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

Thankfully the little tyke was unharmed (her sister actually did a pretty good job of propping her up) and Friend watched carefully for a few minutes so Baby could have another quick ride (the photo/video oppourtunities I'm sure had no bearing on why Baby got another ride) then made them stop.

Until a few days later. The excuse was "Its not a fruit box! Its a kitty pan!" (CLEAN kitty litter box.)

Both girls survived to this day, and are STILL masters of "Well what YOU said was [X] and this is actually [Y]" Most recently(last week), they rode a cow (over three miles) to the convience store for soda because their mother told them they couldn't ride their bikes, it was too wet. Apparently because cows do not rust, and this cow is very understanding.... It probably would've been okay if they hadn't taken the 19 month old along. ("He likes riding the cow! We held on!")

After having those two girls, her continued expansion of her family is proof of either bravery or insanity.
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« Reply #954 on: April 09, 2013, 06:14:41 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

I was reading a biography of Albert Einstein, and apparently when his parents had explained about the baby sibling that was to arrive, he got the notion that it was some kind of wonderful toy. When he finally got to meet his little sister, he asked, "Yes, but where are the wheels?"
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« Reply #955 on: April 09, 2013, 06:20:50 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

Thankfully the little tyke was unharmed (her sister actually did a pretty good job of propping her up) and Friend watched carefully for a few minutes so Baby could have another quick ride (the photo/video oppourtunities I'm sure had no bearing on why Baby got another ride) then made them stop.

Until a few days later. The excuse was "Its not a fruit box! Its a kitty pan!" (CLEAN kitty litter box.)

Both girls survived to this day, and are STILL masters of "Well what YOU said was [X] and this is actually [Y]" Most recently(last week), they rode a cow (over three miles) to the convience store for soda because their mother told them they couldn't ride their bikes, it was too wet. Apparently because cows do not rust, and this cow is very understanding.... It probably would've been okay if they hadn't taken the 19 month old along. ("He likes riding the cow! We held on!")

After having those two girls, her continued expansion of her family is proof of either bravery or insanity.

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« Reply #956 on: April 09, 2013, 06:37:38 PM »
Magazine 'health' advice from the middle of the 20th century can be very scary. 

I remember looking through old issues of 'Vogue' for something else and stumbling across 'The Healthy Man Diet'.  This consisted of almost nothing but red meat and plenty of it. 

A suggested lunch included a full pound of steak and several alcoholic drinks. Vegetables were verboten. 

Of course, readers of 'Vogue' were expected to have the money to afford this sort of thing.  You have to wonder if they also expected to inherit the wad when the 'Healthy Man' dropped dead after such a diet.     

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« Reply #957 on: April 09, 2013, 07:09:28 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

Thankfully the little tyke was unharmed (her sister actually did a pretty good job of propping her up) and Friend watched carefully for a few minutes so Baby could have another quick ride (the photo/video oppourtunities I'm sure had no bearing on why Baby got another ride) then made them stop.
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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #958 on: April 09, 2013, 07:13:19 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

Thankfully the little tyke was unharmed (her sister actually did a pretty good job of propping her up) and Friend watched carefully for a few minutes so Baby could have another quick ride (the photo/video oppourtunities I'm sure had no bearing on why Baby got another ride) then made them stop.

Until a few days later. The excuse was "Its not a fruit box! Its a kitty pan!" (CLEAN kitty litter box.)

Both girls survived to this day, and are STILL masters of "Well what YOU said was [X] and this is actually [Y]" Most recently(last week), they rode a cow (over three miles) to the convience store for soda because their mother told them they couldn't ride their bikes, it was too wet. Apparently because cows do not rust, and this cow is very understanding.... It probably would've been okay if they hadn't taken the 19 month old along. ("He likes riding the cow! We held on!")

After having those two girls, her continued expansion of her family is proof of either bravery or insanity.
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Re: Captain Know-It-All stories
« Reply #959 on: April 09, 2013, 09:08:43 PM »
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"

Cute :) but could be dangerous, you have to be really carefull what you say around kids and how they might interpret what you said  ::)

Thankfully the little tyke was unharmed (her sister actually did a pretty good job of propping her up) and Friend watched carefully for a few minutes so Baby could have another quick ride (the photo/video oppourtunities I'm sure had no bearing on why Baby got another ride) then made them stop.

Until a few days later. The excuse was "Its not a fruit box! Its a kitty pan!" (CLEAN kitty litter box.)

Both girls survived to this day, and are STILL masters of "Well what YOU said was [X] and this is actually [Y]" Most recently(last week), they rode a cow (over three miles) to the convience store for soda because their mother told them they couldn't ride their bikes, it was too wet. Apparently because cows do not rust, and this cow is very understanding.... It probably would've been okay if they hadn't taken the 19 month old along. ("He likes riding the cow! We held on!")

After having those two girls, her continued expansion of her family is proof of either bravery or insanity.

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