But some of the early (particularly the psychology) is scary, to the point of abusiveness. In the twenties, one of the leading lights of "modern thinking about childrearing" did a lot of ranting about the permanent harm mothers did to their children - by kissing them. I think this said more about him then about mothers and babies. Exactly. One of the other idiot pieces of advice this doctor gave my mother was that when your kid reaches the age of 5, it's time to stop hugging, kissing and cuddling them. So at the age of 5, my mother and father abruptly withdrew all physical expressions of affection AND had a baby that I was not allowed to go near, but watched them hugging, kissing and cuddling. This was not a good thing for me.
That might be one of the most heartbreaking things I've ever read.
A friend of mine was RECENTLY told to stop nursing her sons at three weeks because after that age its "No better than formula and will make the boys develop perverse fetishes."
Yeah, at 23 months, 23 months,(twins) and 19 months they're all kinda leaning towards weaning but seem to be perfectly normal babies. Well, the youngest eats bugs if he can catch them, but we can't trace that to over-nursing.
On siblings hating one another: When she brought home her 2nd born (2nd daughter) she says she worried slightly about whether her oldest(3-5 years old or so) would be upset by the baby, but figured it'd be ok.
Three months of uneventful life later, she heard Baby giggling and ran in to see why her daughter was having her first laugh... because her big sister stuffed her (padded with blankets and towels) in a fruit box and was dragging her around the living room carpet. When asked why she though this was appropriate behavior with Little Sister, Big Sister responded.
"YOU said she was MY little sister. That means I can play with her. You can't take BACK presents!"