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Asharah

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Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« on: December 07, 2010, 11:11:38 AM »
A story for your site, which we enjoyed very much!! It kept us entertained for hours and made us really appreciate how wonderful our wedding and showers were!


Sending non-verbal, ill-mannered messages . . . In May of last year, my husband and I attended the wedding of a college friend. It was a gorgeous Sunday; a Spring afternoon and the wedding was taking place at a beautiful historic home under a bright, blue sky. Just before the ceremony started, a young woman entered from the side of the seating arrangement waving and calling out to people she knew, mainly the groom's side. Even without the rude entrance, she would have called attention to herself. She looked absolutely ridiculous for a pleasant, Sunday afternoon wedding, which was by no means casual. Her hair was huge with curls. She wore bright red lipstick and was dressed in black pants, a black slinky top with rhinestone spaghetti straps and black, spiked heels. In all honesty, she looked like she'd come straight from the club she'd been drinking and dancing in the night before (and that IS putting it nicely).

 Following her were two women that I remember less, except they were both dressed in black and seemed to take no interest in what was happening. They never smiled and looked like they were attending a funeral, not a wedding. I'd heard of insulting the bride by wearing white, but dressing like it was a funeral and acting that way was really making a statement and it wasn't a good one!!!

After the ceremony, while we were standing in the receiving line, the young woman turned to me and said hello. I smiled, but couldn't place her. However, when she told me her name, I instantly remembered. She was one of the groom's ex-girlfriends and I had not seen her in about 6 years. She was, in fact, THE ex-girlfriend. The one he'd compared all women to until he met the woman he married (whom no one compares to!  ;D The two women with her were her mother and an older friend. Asharah's comment: Were they invited, or did they crash? And if they were crashing, why weren't they kicked out?

Once we finished going through the line and got away from them, my husband said, "Who was that again?" I said, "The groom's ex-girlfriend. THE ex-girlfriend." He said, "When did they break up?" I answered, "Years ago! She moved away. I didn't know she was back." He said, "Isn't she over him yet? I mean, if it's been years, why is she dressed like that?" We quickly agreed that she was a walking advertisement for not being over the groom and against the marriage. It was a message that no one seemed to miss!

Throughout the reception, we noticed that the ex seemed to be lurking at the forefront of everything. When they cut the cake, she was there, standing right in front. When they had toasts, you couldn't miss her; she stood next to or near the groom. Wherever the photographer was, she seemed to be there or somewhere close in the background - I've oftened wondered if there were ANY pictures without her in them! Asharah's comment: Couldn't they tell her to move? Maybe the photographer can digitally erase her. My husband and I left earlier than we had originally planned (shortly before the newlyweds left), so the rest of this story comes from several sources including the bride and groom and is truly the worst wedding etiquette I've ever heard of . . .

Apparently, once the reception started to wind down, the ex-girlfriend, her mother and friend went about collecting all the flowers they could get their hands on - centerpieces, arrangements, anything they could find. Asharah's comment: And nobody stopped them or questioned them? These were flowers that the bride and her mother planned to give as thank-you gifts to friends and family that had helped with the wedding. When the bride asked the caterer where the flowers had been moved to so she could give them away before she left, the caterer explained that a young woman, dressed in black with curly hair and two women with her had gone around collecting them while telling ALL the other guests that they were free for the taking. Needless to say, the bride was mad and her mother was furious!! The next day, the groom's new bride and MIL made him call the ex-girlfriend and demand the flowers back. When the ex refused (saying the flowers were hers!), he drove to her house and took them back, leaving the ex crying. Asharah's comment: Over what? The flowers or the groom? I guess he answered her etiquette with a little of his own!! And, believe me, we ALL applauded him for it!!!     Guest0131-03
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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2010, 11:27:17 AM »
As for why noone kicked them out if they crashed they probably had no means to do so. Most people don't have bouncers who have a guest list at their wedding so most likely everyone assumed they had actually been invited. The only people who would know 100% she wasn't invited would be the bride and groom - and they weren't in a position to do anything about it by the time they noticed she was there.

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2010, 04:11:22 PM »
Nonsense, if I that had happened at our wedding I would have had someone escort her out. If nobody wanted to do it, I'd have gotten my husband to do it.
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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2010, 04:14:45 PM »
Nonsense, if I that had happened at our wedding I would have had someone escort her out. If nobody wanted to do it, I'd have gotten my husband to do it.

How would you have known she was there? I didn't even notice who showed up until the reception started - if I had noticed during the ceremony I wouldn't have stopped it just to have her kicked out.

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #4 on: December 07, 2010, 04:28:45 PM »
At the reception where she was in every single shot? Up front everywhere? I might be getting married, but nobody plucked the eyes out of my head.
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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #5 on: December 07, 2010, 04:30:23 PM »
At the reception where she was in every single shot? Up front everywhere? I might be getting married, but nobody plucked the eyes out of my head.

The question of why she wasn't kicked out came at the ceremony - not the reception. At the receptions I agree - I would have found a way to get rid of her. But i wouldn't have noticed at the ceremony.

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #6 on: December 07, 2010, 04:43:28 PM »
Ah, then we are in blissful agreement. I would not have noticed, nor cared that she was at the ceremony.

I would however have loved it if my FIL had not chattered through it, loudly, in a tiny JP room with walls that echoed sound of them.  ::)
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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #7 on: December 08, 2010, 02:36:45 PM »
This story always struck me as fake. I think it's the overly descriptive first paragraph.

But I'm in agreement: I see no logical reason why she wasn't asked (forced) to leave. If not at the ceremony, at least before she was allowed to attend the reception.

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #8 on: December 08, 2010, 03:21:02 PM »
 My question is  how id  neither the Bride, groom or her Mother mot notice them taking the flowers.  I mean if they took ALL of the flowers would they have had to make several trips .

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #9 on: December 09, 2010, 03:07:04 PM »
My first thought was, while the outfit sounds more of an evening outfit rather than one for a day wedding, it didn't sound funereal or ridiculously trampish. And I don't think that "bright red lipstick" is inappropriate if it suits your colouring.
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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #10 on: December 09, 2010, 03:16:20 PM »
My first thought was, while the outfit sounds more of an evening outfit rather than one for a day wedding, it didn't sound funereal or ridiculously trampish. And I don't think that "bright red lipstick" is inappropriate if it suits your colouring.

Seconded. And I'm sorry, but "her hair was huge with curls"? Has the OP ever HAD curls? Does she know how difficult it can sometimes be to NOT make them huge? :D

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Re: Guest From Hell: THE ExGirlfriend
« Reply #11 on: January 16, 2011, 06:06:27 PM »
If you're going to act like a doormat you shouldn't complain when someone walks on you.  Why on earth did no one kick these clods to the curb?
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