All three, as it turns out.
At 4 am on Saturday morning, my telephone rang. I am not a very heavy sleeper, so even though the telephone in the sitting room, with the door shut, I was woken up, as was DH. I didn't run downstairs to pick it up, and let the machine get it. It turned out to be an old friend calling to wish me a merry christmas from Canada. I am in the UK, so it was about 11 pm there. I knew she wasn't clueless enough to forget there was a time difference, but thought that perhaps she was in high spirits and got the direction wrong, thinking that it would be 6 pm over here.
I found out from my sister, who was at the party, that my friend had indeed been drinking, but knew perfectly well that it was four in the morning for us when she called, and that various people had told her that it was a bad idea. She decided it would be "fun."
When the phone rings in the middle of the night, one always expects that it is some kind of emergency, particularly when family are overseas. Stressed from the call, DH and I both had trouble getting back to sleep, and were up for over an hour. We work weekends, and so even though it was Saturday, we had to be up and about at a reasonably early hour, so we both felt well below par the rest of the day.
I cannot believe that someone would be so inconsiderate, and my opinion of this woman has now been seriously affected. I would have expected a call or email apologising by now, but I haven't heard anything. I'm certainly not going to get in touch with her myself anytime soon, and given that we have grown apart and have little in common anymore, this may have been the nail in the coffin of our friendship. (It may sound as if I am over-reacting, but although we were friends 25 years ago, now there isn't much aside from the occasional greeting card and a phone call once or twice a year where she had nothing to talk about but her children.) If she does contact me again, and doesnt' apologise, how should I react?