So, do I stay silent?
I received an email this morning from my aunt (my mothers sister, - there are 3 sisters and a brother) including photos of my Grandmothers 90th birthday - which was yesterday.
Not all the family were there in person it seems but were able to contribute with special gifts homemade cakes etc as are listed in the email.
I did not know anything about it - and this morning I am in tears as I have been excluded and now have been embarrassed as well as I didnít send anything special to contribute to the day.
A month ago I was sent an email to pass onto my parents. It was sent from family friends via my aunt sending their regards. I read it before printing it out and reading between the lines I noticed a special occasion mentioned only in passing, my grandmothers 90th. I didnít know anything about it, and then nor did my parents.
I emailed my uncle, he said he didnít know anything about it either, (he is overseas) he would check and get back to me. Had no reply so I assumed I was reading too much into it and there was no special event planned.
So question: Do I stay silent? I very nearly sent an email asking why I wasnít invited and that I was frankly devastated. But called my husband and he talked me out of it.
I think I should stay silent, but should I even acknowledge the email? I acknowledged one from her the day before about another matter. She rarely emails actually, so now Iím thinking she was just setting me up to make sure I saw the next email.
I am thinking of sending my grandmother a belated gift for her special birthday, but should I make a song and dance about it on an email to everyone so they know I contributed?
Background: There is some family history here, my mum and one of her sisters have fallen out in the past, but at this aunts daughters wedding in October things were at least civil and we were all invited. Everyone came to my wedding 6 years ago as well. My grandmother also came to my Babyís 1st birthday - 2 years ago. I would describe things as civil and a little distant as well. My parents and I have always been on the periphery of these relations as they are quite different to us in that they are very materialistic and talk of money and not much else, leaving me feeling embarrassed on numerous occasions as they would question my finances. (They are also v rich, we are not) My brother is also excluded and ignored by them as he has a mental disability. Thinking about it though we have of course been excluded plenty over the years Iím sure as we donít fit in with them. This is just another time but this time I have been sent picture evidence. The email age just puts everything in your face dosent it?