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Jenny13:
My DH and his friend have a wonderful relationship as do I with DH friend as well.  Friend has a history of girlfriends that DH and I are not always particulary fond of, but we deal with personality conflicts as best we can and accomodate at all times so as to keep our friendship. 

Friend had a girlfriend in the past that DH and I felt did not care for us nor did we care for her...thank goodness it didn't work out and our friend admitted that she did indeed not care for us and that was part of the reason that their relationship did not work out (that and she stole his car which she proceeded to wreck  :o) 

Friend got a new girlfriend which DH and I met and we really like her!! She seemed much better than the previous one and we became quite fond of her.  It didn't take long to realize that there seemed to be something deep down in her that was just RUDE!  It started October 2009.  I love Halloween and had gotten a lot of crafty things at A.C. Moores that kept my neices and myself busy.  One evening DH, myself, friend, and friends girlfriend were sitting around enjoying a glass of wine and chit chatting when my DH say's "Hey, did you see all the neat crafts Jenny did"?  Now I tend to get quite pleased by my artwork as it is a passion of mine, however, girlfriend say's in return "ha ha yeah, I can tell she did it".  Whoa....! That was out of the blue and quite rude at that.  I replied in a shocked tone "well..Kelly I don't think I like you anymore" and proceeded to laugh, but I don't think it was any surprise that I was extremely angry with her.  She apologized and explained that it was just the wine talking and I laughed it off.  Because I couldn't get over being so flustered and angry, I walked out of the room after a few minutes and went by my fireplace for a few minutes with the excuse "oh, my darn dog is acting out".  I went and hung out with the dog for a couple minutes to cool down  >:(.   After a few minutes friend and GF decided to leave *thank goodness*.  They leave and DH say's "WOW that was rude" Oh I was so mad and fuming at that point I started crying.  I decided to let it all go and give it another whirl...maybe just maybe it was the wine talking after all.

Fast foward to Halloween (which they invited themselves to my house for  :-\).  It's 5:30pm and I look outside to see it there are any trick or treaters walking around yet.  I get very excited for Halloween so I did a little butt shake dance while looking outside (very hard to explain) to which my sister (who also was at my house) say's "Jenny, what are you doing"?  I reply "oh nothing, just excited".  A minute or so later I left with my sister and brother to go pick up pizza that I had ordered.  We get in the car to which my siblings tell me that when my sister asked what I was doing, friend's GF said in a snotty tone "she likes the attention". I didn't hear this, but boy I am mad all over again, but shrug it off.  The night goes by ok, and I continue to be cordial.  After all of this though, I decide I will no longer go out of my way to make her feel included......

This is just an example of how rude she has been in the past...since these two episodes she sorta stays away from me to a point...at least she doesn't express her rudeness so openly anymore.  I just hope I can continue to keep my composure in the event that she does.

Jan74:
She is not just rude, she clearly does not like you, for whatever reason. I'd avoid her.

bluebirds:
I don't know, the first comment, it could have been just a badly-worded way of showing her appreciation.

The second one - yeah off, but I'm really for asking people in a conversational way what's up. I've admitted to not liking people in the past when I was asked point blank, and once (ok not great stats) it actually led to chatting to the chap in question and it turned out to be something so silly we both laughed it off.

Giggity:

--- Quote from: Jenny13 on December 28, 2010, 01:54:35 PM ---1. Friend got a new girlfriend which DH and I met and we really like her!! She seemed much better than the previous one and we became quite fond of her.

2. It didn't take long to realize that there seemed to be something deep down in her that was just RUDE!
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There's a major disconnect between 1 and 2 here. What up with that? If she's so rude and spiteful, what's to be fond of?

Jan74:

--- Quote from: Juana la Loca on December 28, 2010, 03:39:25 PM ---
--- Quote from: Jenny13 on December 28, 2010, 01:54:35 PM ---1. Friend got a new girlfriend which DH and I met and we really like her!! She seemed much better than the previous one and we became quite fond of her.

2. It didn't take long to realize that there seemed to be something deep down in her that was just RUDE!
--- End quote ---

There's a major disconnect between 1 and 2 here. What up with that? If she's so rude and spiteful, what's to be fond of?

--- End quote ---

I think OP means she liked her before she found out she was rude.

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