Why is it that if you're relatively young [I'm 22], everyone thinks that you'll "change your mind when you get older" about having children?
My mom is the primary offender on this. Ever since my younger sister had a child [accidentally, I might add--lol, that sounds wrong, I just mean it was not planned by ANY means], she's periodically on my case about how she wants more grandchildren. She even told me that she would treat me better and buy me stuff if I was pregnant...and she didn't care how I did it.
So I could just go find some random guy off the street, have sex with him, and get pregnant, and she would be 100% fine with that.
Never mind I have a boyfriend and neither of us are interested in kids! [And he's a bit older than me, so he's had more time to settle...].
No matter how many times I try to calmly tell her that I do not want children, I have no interest in having children, and no, my opinion will not change, she is firmly convinced it will. I have tried to beandip when the subject comes up...she automatically reverts back to it. I'm trying not to get downright rude, but it's becoming more and more obnoxious every time she brings it up, and it's really starting to tick me off. Just because I'm 22 does not mean that I can't know I don't want kids! I have several reasons for not wanting children [not that she bothers to listen to any of them
], and I can't see any of those reasons changing for the foreseeable future.
The last time was yesterday. I was out with my mom, sister, her bf, and my nephew [who is almost 2]. My sister and her bf went to get a pizza, while everyone else stayed in the car. I leaned over my seat into the back and started playing with the baby and occupying him so he didn't fuss or get upset. Instead he kept giggling and smiling at me, it was adorable.
It's awesome because every time he sees Auntie Eisa, he seems to go into paroxysms of joy.
I admit that perhaps I used the wrong choice of words, because I ended up saying that playing with him evoked nice, warm, fuzzy feelings. The DANGER! sign went off when my mother said, in far too interested a tone of voice, "Oh
"Yes, Mom, of wanting to babysit him for a few hours!"
To which she heaved a gigantic disappointed sigh and said that she was just hoping I'd changed my mind.
Arrrgh. Is there another polite way to dissuade her when she brings this subject up again? A better way to beandip? Frost her with silence?
[Attack her with a frozen salmon?
Ok, ok, so that last one isn't etiquette-approved...
I'm just...coming to my wits' end. I thought she understood and wouldn't bring up the subject anymore, but I was wrong. Apparently she wants more grandchildren and doesn't care how she gets them.