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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #15 on: January 04, 2011, 09:08:57 PM »
My husband and I typically just have a nice dinner at home for Valentine's Day, just because restaurants charge so much that evening! Maybe the two of you could have a nice dinner in?

This is what DH and I do too.  I usually put a bit more creative falir into the dinner (not hard since our daily fare is pretty basic).

We do this too.  Mostly I let DH pick out something special and I make it for him.  Some years we get carside takeout food. We watch a cheesy movie. Between Christmas, Chanukah, V-Day, and our anniversary in March, we like having a simple holiday :-)

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #16 on: January 04, 2011, 09:54:03 PM »
I'd make him dinner, but he'll be in another province, hehe. :)

I'm gonna ask him tonight - last year, we had a low key dinner (I made), he bought me the 20th anniversary edition of the Simpsons, and I got him a framed pic of the two of us. :)

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« Reply #17 on: January 04, 2011, 10:01:09 PM »
I'd make him dinner, but he'll be in another province, hehe. :)


Does he cook?  You can set aside a couple hours for each other, and cook together over speakerphone and share a meal that way :)

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #18 on: January 05, 2011, 12:29:06 AM »
I'd make him dinner, but he'll be in another province, hehe. :)


Does he cook?  You can set aside a couple hours for each other, and cook together over speakerphone and share a meal that way :)
That is an adorable idea!

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« Reply #19 on: January 05, 2011, 12:35:05 AM »
How do you tell him you don't want to celebrate Valentine's day and would rather focus more on your second anniversary?

Tell him this:
As I was thinking through my head about gifts, I realized that Valentine's Day is next month. I don't mind Valentine's Day - however, it's also not a holiday I particularly enjoy. Every Valentine's Day that I've had a BF, something bad has happened (lost my job last year right before - prior to that, had a really not great boyfriend). Plus, I am also not a fan of holiday commercialization - I know there are tons of commercials, but Valentine's Day, IMHO, gets commercialized the worst. Perseus and I are just starting to get back on our feet job-wise after a rough year, so finances aren't what they could be.

I would rather save up my money, and celebrate our two year anniversary, which is on May 1st. We could go to a nice restaurant we don't normally go to, and since our anniversary lands on a Sunday, we could stay over in Canmore and have a wonderful day together. Plus, it gives me time to make a unique and beautiful gift - even though Perseus loves anything, he keeps the unique gifts and treasures them.

You could even read this to him, verbatim. :)

I'd make him dinner, but he'll be in another province, hehe. :)


Does he cook?  You can set aside a couple hours for each other, and cook together over speakerphone and share a meal that way :)
That is an adorable idea!
I really like it. You could talk on Skype while you cook the same menu. Then light some candles and facing your monitor, eat a romatic dinner together.
If I had some ham, I could have ham and eggs, if I had some eggs.

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #20 on: January 06, 2011, 08:27:11 PM »
He and I talked last night. :) I asked him how he felt about Valentine's Day - turns out, he doesn't like it, but he thought I did. I told him I don't care for it either, and we could celebrate our anniversary instead - he thought that was a way better idea. :)

Now I'm going to learn how to make a shadowbox for an anniversary gift. :)

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« Reply #21 on: January 07, 2011, 09:01:53 PM »
He and I talked last night. :) I asked him how he felt about Valentine's Day - turns out, he doesn't like it, but he thought I did. I told him I don't care for it either, and we could celebrate our anniversary instead - he thought that was a way better idea. :)

Now I'm going to learn how to make a shadowbox for an anniversary gift. :)

This is pretty much exactly what happened with FH and I! We will occasionally celebrate 50% off chocolate day on the 15th, but focus more on his birthday on the 17th instead ;)
 

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #22 on: January 09, 2011, 04:51:10 AM »
I'm glad you guys came to an agreement!

My dad grew up in Canmore - I haven't been there in years, but I hope you have fun when you go  :)

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #23 on: January 10, 2011, 12:21:03 AM »

I would go the direct route. "Hey, bf, can we skip Valentone's Day this year and do something better later?"
...and then reassure him that you really mean it and you aren't gonig to be mad when it comes without presents and comes without cards... :)


this can be good choices,if you both can understand it

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #24 on: January 10, 2011, 08:57:57 AM »
My gift to my husband on V-day every year: home-cooked fancy dinner.  I invest a few extra hours and a very few extra dollars, making things that I don't normally make, and it's delicious, and not much more expensive than normal.  The day isn't forgotten, and we don't have to contend with the restaurant crowds.

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #25 on: January 10, 2011, 10:31:23 AM »
This is pretty much exactly what happened with FH and I! We will occasionally celebrate 50% off chocolate day on the 15th, but focus more on his birthday on the 17th instead ;)

My friends and I call that the Feast of St. Markdown's. :)  Comes the day after Valentine's, Easter, and Halloween.  My favorite holiday!

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #26 on: January 10, 2011, 10:50:24 AM »
Can you say "I was thinking about V-Day and wondering how you would feel about us limiting ourselves to cards/letters and then making our anniversary a big shebang?"

I really like this suggestion - it's not letting the day go by unnoticed, but not going all over the top for it either. :)

Agree with this too.  This is what my DH and I do.  We don't like the commercialism either, but we do get each other a card (I realize the irony).  We acknowledge the day without breaking the bank.  

Agreed. That way the spirit of holiday is at least acknowledged.  Anyway, a heartfelt letter might even be more romantic than exchanging over-the-top or expensive gifts! But you two should definitely talk about it and try to come to an agreement of "terms" which will make both of you happy.

FH and I have quite a run during the winter months -- first there is Hanukkah in December, then both of our birthdays in January, then our "dating"  anniversary the first week of February, and THEN Valentine's Day -- it's WAY too much to give gifts to one another for each holiday/occasion. This year -- especially because we're planning/paying for our wedding -- we decided to forego Hanukkah gifts altogether and basically ignore our "anniversary" (after all, we get a new anniversary later this year! ;)), but DO exchange gifts for birthdays and Valentine's Day.

ETA: Whoops, I just saw that you provided an update! I'm really glad to hear that you two are on the same page!
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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #27 on: January 10, 2011, 11:26:57 AM »
Hehe Wasabiwithyou: No probs. :)

I found that we sell 'inspirational quote' cards at work, and I got Perseus one just because he does an awesome job. :) I'm mailing it to him today. :)

I also got approved to have April 30th and May 1st off at work. :) I told them I'd work through the week, and then have those days off for my anniversary. Since I usually pick up shifts when needed, stay later, or start earlier when needed, work was totally cool with giving me those days off. :)

Now I have to find out how to do shadowboxes. :) We sell the frames at work, I just need to get a pic printed, and pick up some memorable items to go into the shadowbox. :)

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #28 on: January 15, 2011, 04:54:29 PM »
It wasn't until my 20's that I actually had a BF on Valentines Day.  I was so sick of the holiday by that time I told (my now ex) BF I wanted to skip it.  I said "This is not one of those "tests" where I tell you I don't want something when I actually do.  I really don't want to celebrate V day, please skip it".

So...on February 15th he came home with a huge bag of chocolate and said "I know you don't like V day, but you do love chocolate and it was all on sale.  Happy half priced chocolate day".  I laughed my head off.  To this day I celebrate half priced chocolate day.

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Re: No Valentine's Day - How to Explain to BF?
« Reply #29 on: January 16, 2011, 02:18:01 PM »
We celebrate Valentine's Day by eating dessert (a rare thing) and watching the grossest horror movie we can find (last year: The Midnight Meat Train).

I think most men, given the chance, would not celebrate Valentine's Day.  ;)
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