I used to take my dept out for a XMAS lunch. However - it started getting too expensive and out of hand and frankly the entitlement pigs were making me a little angry. One woman in particular (JILL ) would lobby / hint to go to the most $$$ restaurant in the city. ( We didn't - I was hostess and I picked the venue ) . Wherever we went - she would ask to see the dinner menu and order from that instead of the lunch menu. She would order appetizers / soup / dinner meal and dessert. Most of the meal she would wrap up.
One year - I had some significant cash flow problems ( dead car before XMAS , medical emergency, unexpected vet bills ). I decided to take the group to a restaurant that we ALL liked - but was a little more reasonable priced. Well JILL and one or two others - did nothing but complain and make comments about how cheap I was ! At the copier outside my office in earshot of both my secretary and I.
That ended the XMAS lunch and frankly I don't do anything any more.
Since I stopped the lunch a few years ago - JILL will bring up frequently ( insert whine ) aren't we having a XMAS party
? My standard reply is yes - Our company sponsors a catered lunch and festivites - that's our party. Of course she will then say - but Aren't you taking us out ? I repeat - no, that's not possible this year.
Some departments ( larger ones with 20 - 30 employees ) having there own XMAS party potluck lunch - JILL took a nutty and kept on about why we weren't invited ( um - it's not our department - it's not our party ). In fact - she was just planning to crash it.
She then continued to bring up incessantly that it would be NICE if our department did something for XMAS like go out to a fancy lunch. I finally told her that I had overheard the discussion where I was called cheap and frankly it hurt my feelings. Her response was well - you were cheap that year
So I repeated to her what I have said for the past two years - you can plan a small event and I will pitch in $50. We can order out / do a combo potluck order or whatever - but you can organize and plan it. ( I am too busy - Year End Audt / 4th Qtr Board Meetings etc and my secretary left ).
Nope - she keeps saying that she thinks I should do it. I finally told her in no uncertain terms that I was not her social secretary and that this was getting in the way of work being done and that it was disruptive to everyone else. She of course looks at me smugly and says Why do you always blow everything out of proportion ?
I have no objection to the holiday hoopla in the office but:
No, I am not planning it - I am running ragged with Christmas for Kids toy drive, the food drive for church and organizing a coat closet for the elementary school.
No, I am not participating in a secret santa or any gift exchange - personally - I keep gifts to a minimun and try to emphasize other aspects of the holiday.
As a thank you to my staff - I think one of the greatest gifts this season is time - I give everyone 2 afternoons off ( their choice ) in December in order to get shopping done / prepare for the holidays or spend time with their kids.
Thanks to all of you lovely EHELLIONS - I really kept my temper in check, and just kept lathering , rinseing and repeating.