OP here.
Life on Pluto - I am thinking about doing what you say. I am ok with the fact we are no longer friends, she has made it clear she is not the person I knew and there iis too much water under the bridge for me now.
However, because we didn't talk properly yesterday and the issue was not mentioned I am very tempted to send one last email/note, just to say:
- this is how I feel, I had hoped to discuss it yesterday but when you brought your husband there was not the opportunity.
-It seems like you have moved on. I want you to know that I wish you well with the baby, that the baby was not the cause of all this, even though you seemed to think I was not happy for you etc, but I have found it very hard to understand why someone who i spoke to so often can suddenly go weeks with out speaking to me, accuse me of the things you did, ignore me in the street and then pretend like everything is fine.
- I have always valued your friendship, and I still value what we had, but I don't really know if I can go back to how things were before. I don't think you have been treating me very much like a friend recently, and I am not sure how to trust you again.
- If you ever want to talk about it you know where I am and I will listen. If you have moved on then there is no need to reply to this. Just know that I wish you the best.
I just really want her to know that it's not ok and give it an ending without this awkwardness or the chance of running into them again at church and wondering how to act. I feel like this would be closure for both of us maybe?
If not, then I won't do it.