Hmmmmm -- I agreed with most of your last post. It was a pretty good explanation about why the OP shouldn't feel victimized here, everyone here has a right to post their (polite) thoughts. It's up to the OP or other readers/posters to 'take it or leave it' . . . remember this is the internet.
However, your last paragraph made me go
I'm sorry if my post is coming across as harsh to you as well. I'll admit that my first thought when reading your OP was "What do you mean you only had a week to plan for the memorial service? You've known the relative was in poor health for a while."
The first part of your post didn't sound harsh to me at all, but the bold above? Even though the relative is in poor health for a while doesn't mean that someone is thinking "I need to get a proper suit" before said relative even passes away! When my LDH was in his final stages, believe me, the very last thing that was on my mind was what I was going to wear at his memorial service, nor was I thinking about planning the service itself! In fact, two days before his memorial I ran to Walmart in order to find me an acceptable off-the-shelf mourning outfit.
It sounds to me that you spoke of OP not being victimized by other posts, then you pounded on him a bit harder.
I know it's difficult to understand 'tone' with writing sometimes, so Hmmmmm, please take this as gentle confusion and not harsh criticism.
OP -- I didn't see anything in any of the replies that made you a victim. You said:
Interestingly different insights here - many of which I had not considered before. (That's something I like about reading EHell.)
Please don't call yourself a victim or think that posters are victim-blaming because, I'm sure, they really meant no offense when they say things like
I'm utterly confused as to why you didn't speak up straight away and tell them they'd given you the wrong suit?
Trust me. Sometimes, even on my best day, when something isn't quite right but still acceptable I'll meekly say "oh. okay."
instead of standing up for myself. Then I go home and kick myself in the rear when I think "Oh! I could have said 'this!'"
It doesn't matter a whit if you were in pain, feeling unsettled, in mourning and all that . . . it's about finding that shiny new spine that is needed in order to speak up for yourself when you feel that you are wronged. At the time, not after the fact.
To answer your original question . . . no, I've never experienced anything like that, but I don't usually buy tailored clothing.
I don't necessarily see anything rude (maybe a bit lessor of a professional attitude) from the shop employees, and I have a question for you . . . will you go back to them for your next suit?
AngelicGamer -- you posted while I was typing. And I completely agree with you.