I am so sorry for everyone's loses. Its hard and sometimes we aren't as rational as we would like to be as we are going through the process.
I did something like this when my father died. I held it together, arraigned for the Patriot Guard to be at the memorial service, was a social butterfly during the service, happily thanking people for coming and sharing a fun memory with every table. I helped Mom pack up Dad's stuff until we got to one of his old remote control joysticks for the planes he loved to make and crash. I thought that it was worth what he paid for it 20 years ago and refused to just donate a hundred dollar controller.
That issue became a hill to die on for 2 days. I didn't want it, but I couldn't allow such a valuable object to just be tossed in the trash.
Grief makes rational people question their judgement at times. Thank you again for helping me work through this.
EMuir, I am so sorry for what you are dealing with right now. Not only did you lose someone you have loved all of your life, now you have to look at pieces of her private life while deciding what to do with it. (I don't care who you are, if you are over 12 years old, mom and dad's underware are private!)