The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread

[Redsoil]

Rose Red (I'm ex-library going back some years now).  We never had any issue with people returning books quickly - in fact, it's a good thing!  That way, other people can borrow the books and turnover is better.  Especially good if they are popular books!  Feel free to return the same day if need be, and borrow more.

[BC12]

How do I label the gift tag for a baby shower gift? "To: Baby" or "To: Mother"?

Also, it's not rude to skip a baby shower, is it? The pregnant couple are in-laws of my in-laws, and we only see them around three times a year and don't have much of a relationship with them. It is sort of family, though, so I kind of feel bad for skipping it. I'm just really uncomfortable attending these things and have come up with several good (to me) reasons not to go: text message invite, second baby, we've never been invited to any of their other events (except for their first baby's shower, which we did attend,) we don't even exchange Christmas gifts, rarely talk when we do see each other.

So, am I fine to just send a gift? That shouldn't cause any resentment, should it?

[Bethalize]

How do I label the gift tag for a baby shower gift? "To: Baby" or "To: Mother"?

To "mother". The present might be for Baby but you can't give a present to someone who doesn't technically exist yet.

[Luci45]

How do I label the gift tag for a baby shower gift? "To: Baby" or "To: Mother"?

Also, it's not rude to skip a baby shower, is it? The pregnant couple are in-laws of my in-laws, and we only see them around three times a year and don't have much of a relationship with them. It is sort of family, though, so I kind of feel bad for skipping it. I'm just really uncomfortable attending these things and have come up with several good (to me) reasons not to go: text message invite, second baby, we've never been invited to any of their other events (except for their first baby's shower, which we did attend,) we don't even exchange Christmas gifts, rarely talk when we do see each other.

So, am I fine to just send a gift? That shouldn't cause any resentment, should it?

Before the baby is born, label the gift to mom. After, if the card says something like, "congratulations on your new bundle," I lable it to the parents. If the card says, "Welcome, Little one," lable to baby.

An invitation is not a summons, to reiterate what has been said on eHell dozens of times.

Why do you even feel compelled to send a gift if you don't feel like it? The only reason I can see is because of family politics, which I don't bend to anyway.

I don't send a gift unless I want to, and even then not until the baby is born, except in the case of my own grandchildren where It was to help set up the nursery and layette.

[KenveeB]

How do I label the gift tag for a baby shower gift? "To: Baby" or "To: Mother"?

To "mother". The present might be for Baby but you can't give a present to someone who doesn't technically exist yet.

I usually label them as To Baby (either by name if I know it, or "Baby Lastname" if I don't). I figure it's a gift for them. I've seen people do it both ways, though, so just do it however you prefer.

Or honestly, you could just put "from BC12" with no "to" field. Everyone knows who it's for at a baby shower!

[Betelnut]

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

[Shoo]

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

My experience is that pictures only truncate on the newsfeed or front page of your profile.  Sort of like a thumbnail.  If you click on the photo and view it in an album, you will see the entire picture.

[Betelnut]

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

My experience is that pictures only truncate on the newsfeed or front page of your profile.  Sort of like a thumbnail.  If you click on the photo and view it in an album, you will see the entire picture.

That's where I wanted to post it--on my front page.  Hmmm...

[BC12]

Thanks for the answers to my baby shower questions. (Yes, it's family politics and also I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.)

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

My experience is that pictures only truncate on the newsfeed or front page of your profile.  Sort of like a thumbnail.  If you click on the photo and view it in an album, you will see the entire picture.

That's where I wanted to post it--on my front page.  Hmmm...

If it's posting as a thumbnail image on your front page, can you just add a note that says, "Click the picture to see her new shoes!"

[Betelnut]

Thanks for the answers to my baby shower questions. (Yes, it's family politics and also I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.)

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

My experience is that pictures only truncate on the newsfeed or front page of your profile.  Sort of like a thumbnail.  If you click on the photo and view it in an album, you will see the entire picture.

That's where I wanted to post it--on my front page.  Hmmm...

If it's posting as a thumbnail image on your front page, can you just add a note that says, "Click the picture to see her new shoes!"

Oh, that's a good idea!  I'll try and report back...

[oz diva]

I notice a lot of people here commenting on something being British. My question is, if you are British do you identify as that or rather English/Scottish/Irish/Welsh? My husband is Scottish and I don't think he thinks of himself as a Brit, but as a Scot. (and now an Aussie).

[RingTailedLemur]

I notice a lot of people here commenting on something being British. My question is, if you are British do you identify as that or rather English/Scottish/Irish/Welsh? My husband is Scottish and I don't think he thinks of himself as a Brit, but as a Scot. (and now an Aussie).

I identify as British because I have both English and Welsh grandparents.  Plus the cross of St George has been hijacked by unpleasant political groups that scare me a lot - frankly, I'd rather be just Welsh.

[kherbert05]

I notice a lot of people here commenting on something being British. My question is, if you are British do you identify as that or rather English/Scottish/Irish/Welsh? My husband is Scottish and I don't think he thinks of himself as a Brit, but as a Scot. (and now an Aussie).

I identify as British because I have both English and Welsh grandparents.  Plus the cross of St George has been hijacked by unpleasant political groups that scare me a lot - frankly, I'd rather be just Welsh.

In the US some groups I suspect are similar have taken the Celtic Cross as their symbol. Ironic since they don't consider Celts to be human.

[Betelnut]

Thanks for the answers to my baby shower questions. (Yes, it's family politics and also I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.)

How do you post a vertical picture in Facebook?  My daughter just learned to tie her shoes and the incentive was a high-top pair of sneakers (lots of lace!)  When I tried to post a picture of her wearing the shoes on Facebook, the picture was truncated into a square picture--you couldn't see the sneakers at all!
I ended up deleting the picture and comment because it just didn't make sense without being able to see the shoes.

Suggestions?

My experience is that pictures only truncate on the newsfeed or front page of your profile.  Sort of like a thumbnail.  If you click on the photo and view it in an album, you will see the entire picture.

That's where I wanted to post it--on my front page.  Hmmm...

If it's posting as a thumbnail image on your front page, can you just add a note that says, "Click the picture to see her new shoes!"

Oh, that's a good idea!  I'll try and report back...

It worked--thanks everyone!

[pwy a wyr]

...what is this and what would you call it? Trying to sell it online but haven't got a clue how to describe it!