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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #5715 on: September 12, 2012, 09:01:49 PM »
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« Reply #5716 on: September 14, 2012, 03:36:57 AM »
My stupid question:
Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried? There's obviously a stage where kids are old enough to walk fine by themselves but still get picked up and carried because they're tired or just can't easily keep up with longer-legged adults.

I'm wondering because of a story I'm writing (fanfic); it's a minor detail, but there's a reason the kid needs to appear in the story and I don't want anything to jump out as glaringly off. I don't know many little kids, so I don't have the greatest sense of what is typical for each age.

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« Reply #5717 on: September 14, 2012, 08:37:44 AM »
Morning all.  It is more related to weight,  than age I'd say.  Then secondarily the maturity of the kid.  A tired three-year-old can usually be easily hefted, and is still used to being carted around.  So 3+ years is good.  I love fanfic btw. :)

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« Reply #5718 on: September 14, 2012, 09:01:45 AM »
It also depends on the size of the parent carrying the child - anyone under five feet tall is going to stop carrying a child earlier than a six foot tall parent - unless the child is built to the same scale.

I've seen tiny women with tall husbands who had to stop carrying kids (and found even stroller pushing got to be heavy exercise) when their built more like Daddy than Mommy kid hit half of Mommy's size before they were three.

Granted, there aren't many women that small with husbands that tall who are raising giant children.......but...

And "twenty pounds" was another milestone I remember a woman writing about (before blogging) - she mentioned that women learn what twenty pounds feels like because when kids hit that weight - they are usually walking and WANT to walk (and Mom's back is happier if she lets them).  Bit for the rest of her life - she can estimate the weight of almost anything as being REAL close to twenty pounds (or so).

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« Reply #5719 on: September 14, 2012, 09:22:41 AM »
Onyx_TKD wrote:

"Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried?"

As previous posters said, it varies with the child and carrier, but few people will balk at reading that a child under three years old got picked up and carried, and most will balk at mention of the same for a four-year-old child or older except under extreme circumstances like an injury or a carrier who's been described as strong.  For the year in the middle it could go either way so mention that the child is small (or large) if you bring it into the story.

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« Reply #5720 on: September 14, 2012, 10:05:56 AM »
I've often wondered, how do you stop it from going bitter and yucky? If I make a cup of hot tea and let it go cold, it's not very nice. Actually it happens to me practically every day at work and I just tip it out. No-one I know is happy to drink hot tea that went cold accidentally. So how do you make it different? Is it in the teas used, the chilling process or maybe in the brewing temperature?

I think some of it is the variety of tea used, and some of it is the method for making iced tea.

Iced tea in the US tends to be made with Lipton (or similar). It's a blend of tea that, according to their website, is Orange Pekoe and Pekoe cut black tea. The method that I am most familiar with is to either make hot tea, and pour it over ice before it has cooled all the way, or to make tea in a way that doesn't involve heating the water at all (sun tea or just cold-brewed tea).

When you pour hot-brewed tea over ice, it tends to get a little more diluted as the ice melts, and that helps keep it from getting bitter. When you brew tea without using boiling water, the acid content is lower, which helps with the taste.

One other thing I'll note is that most of the tea-drinking countries I'm aware of tend not to drink Lipton-style tea varieties. When I spent a semester in Ireland, the tea that was sold as just generic tea (usually in enormous quantities) was actually Irish Breakfast tea. Something like that, or English Breakfast, or Earl Grey, taste very different when iced than what you'd normally find in the US. I personally think they all taste terrible iced, no matter how you prepare it. :)


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« Reply #5721 on: September 14, 2012, 12:50:13 PM »
Thanks for the responses! It sounds like it isn't too far off from what I was guessing.

Onyx_TKD wrote:

"Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried?"

As previous posters said, it varies with the child and carrier, but few people will balk at reading that a child under three years old got picked up and carried, and most will balk at mention of the same for a four-year-old child or older except under extreme circumstances like an injury or a carrier who's been described as strong.  For the year in the middle it could go either way so mention that the child is small (or large) if you bring it into the story.

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So, it would be fairly plausible for reasonably large, physically fit man to pick up a 4 or 5-year-old without undue difficulty, although he probably wouldn't want to carry him around for too long? Say, if the kid was injured, needed to be boosted over an obstacle, was being abducted by a ferocious cave troll in a game of pretend...

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« Reply #5722 on: September 14, 2012, 12:54:58 PM »
When we go camping, we do a hike around the lake which is 4 to 5 km long.  This year, a 4 yr old boy walked the entire thing.  A couple years ago, when his big sister was 4, she had to be carried for the last km or so, by my 18 year old nephew, if I remember correctly.  The carriers tended to sit the kids on their shoulders, rather than carrying them in their arms.

So 4 to 5 year olds and reasonably fit person is definitely not unreasonable.
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« Reply #5723 on: September 14, 2012, 01:07:22 PM »
Thanks for the responses! It sounds like it isn't too far off from what I was guessing.

Onyx_TKD wrote:

"Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried?"

As previous posters said, it varies with the child and carrier, but few people will balk at reading that a child under three years old got picked up and carried, and most will balk at mention of the same for a four-year-old child or older except under extreme circumstances like an injury or a carrier who's been described as strong.  For the year in the middle it could go either way so mention that the child is small (or large) if you bring it into the story.

Virg

So, it would be fairly plausible for reasonably large, physically fit man to pick up a 4 or 5-year-old without undue difficulty, although he probably wouldn't want to carry him around for too long? Say, if the kid was injured, needed to be boosted over an obstacle, was being abducted by a ferocious cave troll in a game of pretend...

I'd believe that easily.
One thing that just occurred to me, women IME tend to carry children on their hip, whereas men tend to put them on their shoulders or have them ride piggy-back. That would probably affect the size child that someone could carry comfortably (I can still pick up my son, but if I'm going to be carrying him any distance he needs to be on my back, rather than my hip or in a koala-hug).

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« Reply #5724 on: September 14, 2012, 01:33:54 PM »
I remember being carried sometimes until I was 7 or 8. I was the youngest of five, so my (then-) active family probably just carried me around sometimes so they could do the things they liked to do without the youngest passing out in a ravine. I was also really light. I think I was still under 100 pounds when I started high school. My four year old is built the same: tall but very waif-like. She's a cinch to carry around if we need to go somewhere fast or heft her over puddles or terrain she can't manage. My two year old is the same weight, so I don't anticipate carrying her around at all for much longer. So really, it depends on the kids.

Regular carrying, though (not just picking them up briefly for convenience or comfort) probably stops around 3 or 4.


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« Reply #5725 on: September 14, 2012, 04:18:10 PM »
Thanks for the responses! It sounds like it isn't too far off from what I was guessing.

Onyx_TKD wrote:

"Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried?"

As previous posters said, it varies with the child and carrier, but few people will balk at reading that a child under three years old got picked up and carried, and most will balk at mention of the same for a four-year-old child or older except under extreme circumstances like an injury or a carrier who's been described as strong.  For the year in the middle it could go either way so mention that the child is small (or large) if you bring it into the story.

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So, it would be fairly plausible for reasonably large, physically fit man to pick up a 4 or 5-year-old without undue difficulty, although he probably wouldn't want to carry him around for too long? Say, if the kid was injured, needed to be boosted over an obstacle, was being abducted by a ferocious cave troll in a game of pretend...

I stopped carrying Babybartfast this January, when I got pregnant enough with Bittybartfast I wasn't supposed to carry that much :P  However, Babybartfast just turned four and is not quite 30 pounds, which is in the 7th percentile for four-year-olds.  A friend of mine has a son who was 65 pounds at age three.  My friend lifts Babybartfast up one-handed - I can barely stand when her son jumps on me  ::)

Age 3-4 is when a child learns to actually "heel" (for lack of a better word) and thus doesn't have to be carried all the time when out and about.  Before age three, kids are likely to pull things from store shelves, wander off in the parking lot, sit down on the ground and start eating gravel, etc. instead of following the parent.  By age four most kids would be capable of understanding "We're in a hurry, the cave troll is chasing us, so follow me and we'll run!"

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« Reply #5726 on: September 14, 2012, 04:31:04 PM »
Thanks for the responses! It sounds like it isn't too far off from what I was guessing.

Onyx_TKD wrote:

"Around what age do kids generally get too big to be carried?"

As previous posters said, it varies with the child and carrier, but few people will balk at reading that a child under three years old got picked up and carried, and most will balk at mention of the same for a four-year-old child or older except under extreme circumstances like an injury or a carrier who's been described as strong.  For the year in the middle it could go either way so mention that the child is small (or large) if you bring it into the story.

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So, it would be fairly plausible for reasonably large, physically fit man to pick up a 4 or 5-year-old without undue difficulty, although he probably wouldn't want to carry him around for too long? Say, if the kid was injured, needed to be boosted over an obstacle, was being abducted by a ferocious cave troll in a game of pretend...

I think so.  I'm a 5'4" woman whose nearly 5 year old still wants "uppie" when she's feeling scared or unwell (or can't see something).  I can carry her for a while and I'm kind of scrawny.  She's average size.  But I don't haul her around as a rule.  She's under her own power 99% of the time.

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« Reply #5727 on: September 16, 2012, 07:43:13 AM »
Onyx_TKD wrote:

"So, it would be fairly plausible for reasonably large, physically fit man to pick up a 4 or 5-year-old without undue difficulty, although he probably wouldn't want to carry him around for too long? Say, if the kid was injured, needed to be boosted over an obstacle, was being abducted by a ferocious cave troll in a game of pretend..."

That's very believable, especially since you're not talking about extended carrying, like picking up a tired child at a zoo, but just talking about a quick grab-and-lift.  For play or a lift over something (or a situation which would warrant extra exertion like carrying an injured child), it's plausible for average people even up to about eight or nine years old.  For "pick me up, daddy" stuff I'd say that five is about the top limit.  It's not just weight at that point, it's as much because five-year-olds don't tend to like being carried for long distances as much as toddlers.

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #5728 on: September 21, 2012, 07:08:15 PM »
New Question:

Why are you not supposed to serve cheese with seafood?

There's a chef judge on "Chopped" (Scott Conant) who cringes whenever someone sprinkles mozzarella or parmesan or some other cheese on pasta with seafood.

I made some salmon tonight and thought about a pasta with alfredo sauce for a side dish, then I thought about an episode of Chopped where all the judges were yelling "Don't  do it!" when one of the competing chefs started sprinkling cheese on her seafood dish. Scott Conant said "I won't even eat this."

(So I served my pasta side with a pesto sauce instead.)


Why is this taboo?


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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #5729 on: September 21, 2012, 07:49:20 PM »
New Question:

Why are you not supposed to serve cheese with seafood?

There's a chef judge on "Chopped" (Scott Conant) who cringes whenever someone sprinkles mozzarella or parmesan or some other cheese on pasta with seafood.

I made some salmon tonight and thought about a pasta with alfredo sauce for a side dish, then I thought about an episode of Chopped where all the judges were yelling "Don't  do it!" when one of the competing chefs started sprinkling cheese on her seafood dish. Scott Conant said "I won't even eat this."

(So I served my pasta side with a pesto sauce instead.)


Why is this taboo?

I've never heard of such a rule. If that's what you want with your seafood, do it (says she who loves her lobster bisques and her shrimp dipped in Drambuie sauce).
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