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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #9495 on: July 17, 2014, 07:18:39 AM »
I know next to nothing about real estate, so I want to know if this is normal. DF and I are looking at buying a house. I requested to view one from an agent and he asked if I would be willing to sign an agreement that I wouldn't work with another company. That seems outrageous to me, especially when all I did was request a viewing. "Hey, I know this is the first date, but let's get married tomorrow!" That's what it feels like to me.

I think it depends on the area in general and the broker/agency.  But, it can benefit you with the right agent.  If you sign an agreement with an agent as a buyer, they should do a LOT of work for you.  You tell them the particulars of what you want (area, size, price, etc.) and they go through the listings for you, come up with a few to show you and take you through those houses. 

This works particularly well if you have a limited amount of time in an area that you are not familiar with.  They know the area and they have the inside information on the market. 

The times we have done this, we've set up showings and signed the contract then.  They are not going to do all this work for you without knowing they will be paid for it when you buy a house. 



True and I have used services like this in the past. However, in this case, the OP says that the agents weren't offering any particular services in exchange for the exclusivity. They might even have such services but that was such a bad sales pitch that I would run away in any case!

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« Reply #9496 on: July 17, 2014, 11:15:02 AM »
I know next to nothing about real estate, so I want to know if this is normal. DF and I are looking at buying a house. I requested to view one from an agent and he asked if I would be willing to sign an agreement that I wouldn't work with another company. That seems outrageous to me, especially when all I did was request a viewing. "Hey, I know this is the first date, but let's get married tomorrow!" That's what it feels like to me.

I think it depends on the area in general and the broker/agency.  But, it can benefit you with the right agent.  If you sign an agreement with an agent as a buyer, they should do a LOT of work for you.  You tell them the particulars of what you want (area, size, price, etc.) and they go through the listings for you, come up with a few to show you and take you through those houses. 

This works particularly well if you have a limited amount of time in an area that you are not familiar with.  They know the area and they have the inside information on the market. 

The times we have done this, we've set up showings and signed the contract then.  They are not going to do all this work for you without knowing they will be paid for it when you buy a house. 



True and I have used services like this in the past. However, in this case, the OP says that the agents weren't offering any particular services in exchange for the exclusivity. They might even have such services but that was such a bad sales pitch that I would run away in any case!

It sounds to me like the OP contacted the seller's agent to request a showing.  It is standard to have that agent's name and contact information with any listing, in any format (online, print signage).  Since most agents I've dealt with are not exclusively buyer's or seller's agents, they are always trying to drum up business wherever and whenever possible.  Making contact is the first step. 

I agree it was a lousy sales pitch....a little too hard sell for my taste.  Especially since (I assume) she was asking to see one of his listings.  The problem comes when/if OP has a different agent that may show them that house.  Both agents will have shown the same house....who should receive that portion (the buyer's agent) of the commission?  That's the reason so many will push for a contract.

The important thing to remember is that when you buy from the listing agent without an agent of your own, there is an inherent conflict of interest and you will be expected to sign a document agreeing to the agent's dual role. 
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« Reply #9497 on: July 17, 2014, 04:14:42 PM »
When they are pointy and stick to your clothes or furniture.   The other answer is,  when they allow it.

Cats' claws grow from the inside out, in a way.  If you clip your kitten's nails, you may see that they are sort of layered like an onion.  (This is easier to see on an older cat with bigger claws.)  Once you have clipped them, they will stay dull until that layer of claw has been stripped off.  Cats scratching on things aren't "sharpening their claws" because claws aren't like kitchen knives.  What they are doing is stripping away that dulled layer.  You might see what looks like a whole claw caught in the scratching post; the cat hasn't somehow torn off a claw, but just stripped that blunted sheath off in one piece to expose the new sharp layer beneath it. 

Which is a long-winded way to say "Whenever they get sharp again."  ;D   Congrats on having a kitten who will let you do it!

Or when they start snagging on the carpets.  ;) Alternatively, when the claw tip is long enough to safely clip off without nicking the "quick" (the pink core of the claw).

Okay, thanks! I figured it was something like that but just wanted to make sure. :) I'll give it a try after I've fed the cats their dinner.
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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #9498 on: July 17, 2014, 06:32:47 PM »
When they are pointy and stick to your clothes or furniture.   The other answer is,  when they allow it.

Cats' claws grow from the inside out, in a way.  If you clip your kitten's nails, you may see that they are sort of layered like an onion.  (This is easier to see on an older cat with bigger claws.)  Once you have clipped them, they will stay dull until that layer of claw has been stripped off.  Cats scratching on things aren't "sharpening their claws" because claws aren't like kitchen knives.  What they are doing is stripping away that dulled layer.  You might see what looks like a whole claw caught in the scratching post; the cat hasn't somehow torn off a claw, but just stripped that blunted sheath off in one piece to expose the new sharp layer beneath it. 

Which is a long-winded way to say "Whenever they get sharp again."  ;D   Congrats on having a kitten who will let you do it!

Or when they start snagging on the carpets.  ;) Alternatively, when the claw tip is long enough to safely clip off without nicking the "quick" (the pink core of the claw).

Okay, thanks! I figured it was something like that but just wanted to make sure. :) I'll give it a try after I've fed the cats their dinner.

I got my Holly-cat from the local RSPCA, and one of the things they do while socialising their kittens is handle their paws to get them used to it. Any time a staff member needs to interact with one of the kittens (and I presume puppies) that isn't an emergency, they briefly hold and move the paws, push the side of the lip up to have a look at their teeth, and give them a quick pat/snuggle. It only takes a few seconds, and because they do it so often (and gently!) the cats take it in their stride. Holly doesn't mind having her paws messed with and claws clipped whenever I start getting stabbed in the leg. ;)
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« Reply #9499 on: July 17, 2014, 07:35:37 PM »
Why do we throw coins into a fountain and make a wish?

In many ancient cultures, objects of value were thrown into bodies of water as offerings to the gods.  It could be that tossing a coin into a fountain or a wishing well is an echo of this sort of sacrifice. 

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #9500 on: July 18, 2014, 12:15:07 AM »
I know next to nothing about real estate, so I want to know if this is normal. DF and I are looking at buying a house. I requested to view one from an agent and he asked if I would be willing to sign an agreement that I wouldn't work with another company. That seems outrageous to me, especially when all I did was request a viewing. "Hey, I know this is the first date, but let's get married tomorrow!" That's what it feels like to me.

I think it depends on the area in general and the broker/agency.  But, it can benefit you with the right agent.  If you sign an agreement with an agent as a buyer, they should do a LOT of work for you.  You tell them the particulars of what you want (area, size, price, etc.) and they go through the listings for you, come up with a few to show you and take you through those houses. 

This works particularly well if you have a limited amount of time in an area that you are not familiar with.  They know the area and they have the inside information on the market. 

The times we have done this, we've set up showings and signed the contract then.  They are not going to do all this work for you without knowing they will be paid for it when you buy a house. 



True and I have used services like this in the past. However, in this case, the OP says that the agents weren't offering any particular services in exchange for the exclusivity. They might even have such services but that was such a bad sales pitch that I would run away in any case!

It sounds to me like the OP contacted the seller's agent to request a showing.  It is standard to have that agent's name and contact information with any listing, in any format (online, print signage).  Since most agents I've dealt with are not exclusively buyer's or seller's agents, they are always trying to drum up business wherever and whenever possible.  Making contact is the first step. 

I agree it was a lousy sales pitch....a little too hard sell for my taste.  Especially since (I assume) she was asking to see one of his listings.  The problem comes when/if OP has a different agent that may show them that house.  Both agents will have shown the same house....who should receive that portion (the buyer's agent) of the commission?  That's the reason so many will push for a contract.

The important thing to remember is that when you buy from the listing agent without an agent of your own, there is an inherent conflict of interest and you will be expected to sign a document agreeing to the agent's dual role.

Yeah, I get it that they won't want to do work for me if I turn around and use someone else, but all I had requested was a showing of a specific house and he threw that out there without any other questions. There was no getting to know me or anything. It was very abrupt; what if I signed it and found out he wasn't a good fit? As it is, I had a showing with another agent who has turned out to be a perfect fit and she hasn't asked for a thing. She even recommended a lender with whom we are now exclusively working. I will definitely be using the pair of them as the process progresses.

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #9501 on: July 18, 2014, 02:22:39 PM »
Yesterday the office printer randomly spewed out several documents that were apparently sent to be printed in 2012. It wasn't just a matter of the date on the bottom of the pages being wrong; several of the things that came out belonged to people who haven't worked here since 2012. It's not even the same printer we had back then. How is that even possible? Is information sent to a printer saved "on the network" somehow? Our IT guy is stumped.
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« Reply #9502 on: July 18, 2014, 02:34:56 PM »
I am guessing there is a print server somewhere on your network, and it had a random little hiccup. At the least, that's where I would start looking.
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« Reply #9503 on: July 18, 2014, 06:41:14 PM »
Speaking of blasts from the past, my office had an email go out advising students to use a email account that the university got rid of over five years ago. We're baffled.
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« Reply #9504 on: July 21, 2014, 12:56:05 PM »
Is there anything one can do to have thicker hair?
Mine is really thin and I feel like I can't do a lot with it even if it's past shoulder length.
I wash it every two/three days with shampoo that seems appropriate, I don't use conditioner, I blow dry with my head down to try and give it a minimum of volume.
Would a different shampoo or conditioner help? Or is that something that cannot be changed?

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« Reply #9505 on: July 21, 2014, 01:02:33 PM »
Is there anything one can do to have thicker hair?
Mine is really thin and I feel like I can't do a lot with it even if it's past shoulder length.
I wash it every two/three days with shampoo that seems appropriate, I don't use conditioner, I blow dry with my head down to try and give it a minimum of volume.
Would a different shampoo or conditioner help? Or is that something that cannot be changed?

It sort of depends. Has your hair airways been like this? Is it a recent change?  How do your nails look?

Thin hair can just be how your hair is. It can also be from medical conditions or vitamin deficiencies.
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« Reply #9506 on: July 21, 2014, 08:44:59 PM »
There is a Rogaine for women.  Walgreen's has a store brand that's cheaper.  It costs about $10 per month.  It works for me. 

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« Reply #9507 on: July 21, 2014, 10:10:35 PM »
I have heard that sometimes anemia (not enough iron in the diet) can cause hair to thin - if you've not reached menopause yet, you might ask about a blood test to see if you're anemic.  If you have reached menopause, I understand that you are less likely to be anemic...but it probably can't hurt to have a blood test anyway...too much iron is not good for you, either.
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« Reply #9508 on: July 22, 2014, 03:44:35 AM »
My hair has always been on the thin side, but my nails are appaling right now, that coupled with other problems and I guess I'll leave the matter to my doctor first (A blood draw was in my future anyway  :()

Thanks everyone  :).

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« Reply #9509 on: July 22, 2014, 05:02:59 AM »
Hair and nails deteriorating at the same time can be a symptom of a whole lot of things, some minor (dietary deficiency) some... less minor (assorted auto-immune issues, including rheumatic or psoriatic arthritis). Hugs, and I hope you get answers quickly!
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