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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8460 on: October 05, 2013, 05:52:48 PM »
About the taking a compliment, I never know how to answer or what to do when m'y SO tells me I'm pretty.
Saying Thank you would seem uterly weird, so I akwardly smile...
What do you answer to that ?
I like it when he says it, I'm juste really not used to anyone saying it beside my parents.

"Yes. yes, I am. Way out of YOUR league  ;D" Why is it weird to say thank you? You'd say thank you if he bought you flowers to brighten your day, surely. This is just him brightening your day in another way. The best way you can show appreciation is to enjoy that gift where he can see it. Think "He thinks I'm pretty, that makes me feel nice" and allow that to show on your face.

I used to be bad at receiving compliments and feel awkward and self conscious and undeserving and all that stuff. As I grew older I realised that there is NO shortage of people in the world who will put you down. Why believe those people, who were often random strangers or had an obvious agenda, over people who knew me and loved me who were saying the nice stuff?
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« Reply #8461 on: October 05, 2013, 06:10:01 PM »
I'm pretty bad with taking compliments too, but for some reason I seem to be bad at it in a really good way. I invariably end up giggling a little, smiling very big and thanking the person who's given me the compliment quite profusely. Apparently this is what people want and they're always completely convinced I have a lot more confidence with compliments than I do!
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« Reply #8462 on: October 05, 2013, 06:14:45 PM »
About the taking a compliment, I never know how to answer or what to do when m'y SO tells me I'm pretty.
Saying Thank you would seem uterly weird, so I akwardly smile...
What do you answer to that ?
I like it when he says it, I'm juste really not used to anyone saying it beside my parents.

I'm not even used to my parents saying it!  I blush so hard when my boyfriend does it and sometimes manage to squeak out a thank you...but it's better than what he does when I tell him he's handsome.  He laughs!  It's out of embarrassment and I think it's adorable, but he laughs, smiles, and shakes his head.  I thought I was bad at taking compliments.

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« Reply #8463 on: October 05, 2013, 06:30:32 PM »
I still blush when I get compliments too, and some I'm better at taking than others.  My bff used to get annoyed when people would compliment me on my photos and I'd say "Oh well it's a really good camera" as she'd try to convince me it's not the camera, but the person using it.  Perhaps, but let's be honest, even in the hands of a professional photographer, a point and shoot is not going to perform the same way as an SLR. 

DH isn't terribly good at compliments either as I'll call him cute or handsome and the answer's always "Nah...!"
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« Reply #8464 on: October 05, 2013, 07:36:30 PM »
About the taking a compliment, I never know how to answer or what to do when m'y SO tells me I'm pretty.
Saying Thank you would seem uterly weird, so I akwardly smile...
What do you answer to that ?
I like it when he says it, I'm juste really not used to anyone saying it beside my parents.

"Oh, thanks!  You always know just what to say to make me feel special."  Or just "That's so sweet - thanks."

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« Reply #8465 on: October 05, 2013, 08:57:18 PM »
For some compliments, I'd say something like "Thanks, I'm glad you like it." That won't work if someone is complimenting your appearance, but it's fine if they like a cake you baked, a hat you knitted, a photo you took.
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« Reply #8466 on: October 05, 2013, 10:30:03 PM »
I think one of the keys to accepting compliments well is thinking about how you prefer for people to respond to you when you compliment them.
I think a sincere "thank you" is always appropriate, as is a compliment back (for example if your boyfriend says you are pretty you can respond with "aww that's because you make me happy and what you see is my happiness"). A big smile is good too.

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« Reply #8467 on: October 06, 2013, 05:49:19 AM »
About the taking a compliment, I never know how to answer or what to do when m'y SO tells me I'm pretty.
Saying Thank you would seem uterly weird, so I akwardly smile...
What do you answer to that ?
I like it when he says it, I'm juste really not used to anyone saying it beside my parents.
As others have said, focus your response the action vs content.
"I'm glad you think so."
"Thanks for saying so."
" You make me feel pretty."
"Thanks, I needed to hear that today."

And occasional joking is fine too.
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« Reply #8468 on: October 06, 2013, 07:22:59 AM »
Due to the crazy heat here the last month or so, I've had some dehydration problems despite drinking nearly 100 oz a day.  My doctor said I was not getting enough salt since I typically do not eat prepared foods and I do not add salt to my food.  He encouraged me to drink some zero calorie Powerade or Gatorade everyday until it didn't taste good anymore.  I've been through more jars of pickles this past month than I care to admit.  ;)

Now his set of directions made perfect since to me since the only time I will drink that vile stuff is when I'm really sick or really dehydrated and it taste DEVINE, but when I am not, it taste like watered down nasty stale koolaid.  My husband said that is nuts because the taste of it never changes. 

Well apparently the taste changes for me and my doctor.  Does anyone else have the phenomenon with electrolyte drinks? Or is my DH the one who is right, that the taste does not change?
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« Reply #8469 on: October 06, 2013, 07:34:28 AM »
Due to the crazy heat here the last month or so, I've had some dehydration problems despite drinking nearly 100 oz a day.  My doctor said I was not getting enough salt since I typically do not eat prepared foods and I do not add salt to my food.  He encouraged me to drink some zero calorie Powerade or Gatorade everyday until it didn't taste good anymore.  I've been through more jars of pickles this past month than I care to admit.  ;)

Now his set of directions made perfect since to me since the only time I will drink that vile stuff is when I'm really sick or really dehydrated and it taste DEVINE, but when I am not, it taste like watered down nasty stale koolaid.  My husband said that is nuts because the taste of it never changes. 

Well apparently the taste changes for me and my doctor.  Does anyone else have the phenomenon with electrolyte drinks? Or is my DH the one who is right, that the taste does not change?
You are right, I have heard a couple of people complain about that. I remember going to a concert once and the lead singer complained that his Gatorade didn't taste right because he didn't need it yet. A few songs later, after he had worked up a good sweat, it tasted just right!

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« Reply #8470 on: October 06, 2013, 07:43:17 AM »
Apparently there's some kind of ancient lizard-brain explanation for that - it's the same part of the brain that makes pregnant women crave particular foods - what your body needs, it tells you tastes *awesome*. I know I've read about it - I did a lot of research while pregnant about why I might be craving certain things (like a decent martini - I abstained, but had one when Wolverine was about 3 months old and it tasted divine) and the widely-accepted theory is that the chemistry of your saliva changes enough that you want to replace the 'missing' taste with something, so you crave it.
ie - not enough salt/electrolytes in your body, so there's not as much of that in your saliva, so you crave it to replace the missing taste in your mouth.
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« Reply #8471 on: October 06, 2013, 08:40:54 AM »
Due to the crazy heat here the last month or so, I've had some dehydration problems despite drinking nearly 100 oz a day.  My doctor said I was not getting enough salt since I typically do not eat prepared foods and I do not add salt to my food.  He encouraged me to drink some zero calorie Powerade or Gatorade everyday until it didn't taste good anymore.  I've been through more jars of pickles this past month than I care to admit.  ;)

Now his set of directions made perfect since to me since the only time I will drink that vile stuff is when I'm really sick or really dehydrated and it taste DEVINE, but when I am not, it taste like watered down nasty stale koolaid.  My husband said that is nuts because the taste of it never changes. 

Well apparently the taste changes for me and my doctor.  Does anyone else have the phenomenon with electrolyte drinks? Or is my DH the one who is right, that the taste does not change?
You are right, I have heard a couple of people complain about that. I remember going to a concert once and the lead singer complained that his Gatorade didn't taste right because he didn't need it yet. A few songs later, after he had worked up a good sweat, it tasted just right!

Nope, you're absolutely right. Maybe your DH has just never been in a position where he really needed it, so he hasn't experienced the change. When I'm doing my Ren Faire -- Texas April and May, so serious risk of heat issues when you're in leather and velvet -- we all are told to drink Gatorade until it doesn't taste good.

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« Reply #8472 on: October 06, 2013, 08:48:59 AM »
Due to the crazy heat here the last month or so, I've had some dehydration problems despite drinking nearly 100 oz a day.  My doctor said I was not getting enough salt since I typically do not eat prepared foods and I do not add salt to my food.  He encouraged me to drink some zero calorie Powerade or Gatorade everyday until it didn't taste good anymore.  I've been through more jars of pickles this past month than I care to admit.  ;)

Now his set of directions made perfect since to me since the only time I will drink that vile stuff is when I'm really sick or really dehydrated and it taste DEVINE, but when I am not, it taste like watered down nasty stale koolaid.  My husband said that is nuts because the taste of it never changes. 

Well apparently the taste changes for me and my doctor.  Does anyone else have the phenomenon with electrolyte drinks? Or is my DH the one who is right, that the taste does not change?
You are right, I have heard a couple of people complain about that. I remember going to a concert once and the lead singer complained that his Gatorade didn't taste right because he didn't need it yet. A few songs later, after he had worked up a good sweat, it tasted just right!

Nope, you're absolutely right. Maybe your DH has just never been in a position where he really needed it, so he hasn't experienced the change. When I'm doing my Ren Faire -- Texas April and May, so serious risk of heat issues when you're in leather and velvet -- we all are told to drink Gatorade until it doesn't taste good.

Nope, he sweats buckets when he works out and he grew up doing very physically intense activities where Gatorade was regularly given to help with fluid loss.  I rarely sweat even during intense workouts, which is why I was baffled about being dehydrated.  Usually I only get dehydrated when I'm really sick with the flu or a stomach bug. 

He says it never taste very good or bad to him...just okay tasting.
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« Reply #8473 on: October 06, 2013, 10:01:16 AM »
Carotte, could you say something like "I love that you see me that way"?
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« Reply #8474 on: October 06, 2013, 10:48:37 AM »
Due to the crazy heat here the last month or so, I've had some dehydration problems despite drinking nearly 100 oz a day.  My doctor said I was not getting enough salt since I typically do not eat prepared foods and I do not add salt to my food.  He encouraged me to drink some zero calorie Powerade or Gatorade everyday until it didn't taste good anymore.  I've been through more jars of pickles this past month than I care to admit.  ;)

Now his set of directions made perfect since to me since the only time I will drink that vile stuff is when I'm really sick or really dehydrated and it taste DEVINE, but when I am not, it taste like watered down nasty stale koolaid.  My husband said that is nuts because the taste of it never changes. 

Well apparently the taste changes for me and my doctor.  Does anyone else have the phenomenon with electrolyte drinks? Or is my DH the one who is right, that the taste does not change?
You are right, I have heard a couple of people complain about that. I remember going to a concert once and the lead singer complained that his Gatorade didn't taste right because he didn't need it yet. A few songs later, after he had worked up a good sweat, it tasted just right!

Nope, you're absolutely right. Maybe your DH has just never been in a position where he really needed it, so he hasn't experienced the change. When I'm doing my Ren Faire -- Texas April and May, so serious risk of heat issues when you're in leather and velvet -- we all are told to drink Gatorade until it doesn't taste good.

Perfectly sensible directions to me. Gatorade at any old random time? Ugh. Gatorade after the stomach flu or a long bike ride? Amazing.