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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8970 on: January 31, 2014, 06:24:36 PM »
Someone told me, not sure if it's true or not, that in Emgland it was common to call the first unmarried daughter Miss LastName until she married and her sisters were called Miss FirstName.

So, with the Bennet sisters, Jane was Miss Bennet, and the others were Miss Elizabeth, Miss Mary, Miss Kitty and Miss Lydia.

The eldest present would be Miss Bennet and the others, Miss FirstName Bennet. So, if Jane and Elizabeth were together, Jane would be addressed as Miss Bennet and Elizabeth as Miss Elizabeth Bennet. But if it were Elizabeth and Mary, Elizabeth would be Miss Bennet and Mary, Miss Mary Bennet. Of course, this was quite formal and was probably waved in day to day conversation, specially with more intimate acquaintances.

An etiquette guide from a little latter (mid 19th century) specifically forbids the use of Miss FirstName alone, without a last name. Only family servants would address family members that way.

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« Reply #8971 on: January 31, 2014, 09:33:19 PM »
Someone told me, not sure if it's true or not, that in Emgland it was common to call the first unmarried daughter Miss LastName until she married and her sisters were called Miss FirstName.

So, with the Bennet sisters, Jane was Miss Bennet, and the others were Miss Elizabeth, Miss Mary, Miss Kitty and Miss Lydia.

I have also heard that, and that it would be similar on the male side as well. So in an alternate universe, James would be Master Bennet, and the others Master Edward, Master Mark, Master Charles, and Master Lysander. After reaching the age of majority, they would become Mr. Bennet, etc.
And we wouldn't have had the novel, as they're all boys.

You don't think that young Mr. Edward Bennet might have run into Miss Darcy? Of course, in her case, as a female, I'm not sure if she'd still be the sole heir of the estate or if she'd have to share with her sister (and, of course, if Georgiana were George, then there goes Pemberly alltogether)

I'm not sure it would have been as good a book, but I'd pay to read it :)
Maybe, but as James Bennet would be inheriting the estate, as a younger son Edward and his brothers would probably be off to the clergy or the military.

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8972 on: January 31, 2014, 09:53:11 PM »
I was told years ago that beer is a good rinse/conditioner for hair because there is protien in the beer. No matter what was the reason, it never worked for me. (But enjoyed the side benefits of the experiment.)

Does anyone do that now?

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« Reply #8973 on: February 01, 2014, 01:46:58 AM »
I was told years ago that beer is a good rinse/conditioner for hair because there is protien in the beer. No matter what was the reason, it never worked for me. (But enjoyed the side benefits of the experiment.)

Does anyone do that now?
I don't know about now, but my grandmother washed my father's hair with it until he was old enough to wash it himself.

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« Reply #8974 on: February 01, 2014, 12:04:47 PM »
I was told years ago that beer is a good rinse/conditioner for hair because there is protien in the beer. No matter what was the reason, it never worked for me. (But enjoyed the side benefits of the experiment.)

Does anyone do that now?
I don't know about now, but my grandmother washed my father's hair with it until he was old enough to wash it himself.

Yes, probably once every six months or so, I'll give my hair a beer rinse.  It really brings out the shine :)

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8975 on: February 01, 2014, 12:29:12 PM »
Someone told me, not sure if it's true or not, that in Emgland it was common to call the first unmarried daughter Miss LastName until she married and her sisters were called Miss FirstName.

So, with the Bennet sisters, Jane was Miss Bennet, and the others were Miss Elizabeth, Miss Mary, Miss Kitty and Miss Lydia.

The eldest present would be Miss Bennet and the others, Miss FirstName Bennet. So, if Jane and Elizabeth were together, Jane would be addressed as Miss Bennet and Elizabeth as Miss Elizabeth Bennet. But if it were Elizabeth and Mary, Elizabeth would be Miss Bennet and Mary, Miss Mary Bennet. Of course, this was quite formal and was probably waved in day to day conversation, specially with more intimate acquaintances.

I think people in general were more formal back then. You simply wouldn't refer to your close friend Elizabeth as "Elizabeth" to any but an equally close friend or family member. To everyone else, she'd be your friend, "Miss Elizabeth Bennet," to distinguish her from all the other Bennet girls. That's why everyone calls Mr. Collins, Mr. Collins, and not by his first name, even though they are cousins to some degree.

You only addressed someone by their first name if they asked you to do so, especially if they were older or higher in social status. Until that request was made, you used Mr., Mrs., Miss, as required. First names were for your very, very close friends. Other friends and acquaintances, you used their title.
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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8976 on: February 01, 2014, 01:21:52 PM »
Someone told me, not sure if it's true or not, that in Emgland it was common to call the first unmarried daughter Miss LastName until she married and her sisters were called Miss FirstName.

So, with the Bennet sisters, Jane was Miss Bennet, and the others were Miss Elizabeth, Miss Mary, Miss Kitty and Miss Lydia.

The eldest present would be Miss Bennet and the others, Miss FirstName Bennet. So, if Jane and Elizabeth were together, Jane would be addressed as Miss Bennet and Elizabeth as Miss Elizabeth Bennet. But if it were Elizabeth and Mary, Elizabeth would be Miss Bennet and Mary, Miss Mary Bennet. Of course, this was quite formal and was probably waved in day to day conversation, specially with more intimate acquaintances.

I think people in general were more formal back then. You simply wouldn't refer to your close friend Elizabeth as "Elizabeth" to any but an equally close friend or family member. To everyone else, she'd be your friend, "Miss Elizabeth Bennet," to distinguish her from all the other Bennet girls. That's why everyone calls Mr. Collins, Mr. Collins, and not by his first name, even though they are cousins to some degree.

You only addressed someone by their first name if they asked you to do so, especially if they were older or higher in social status. Until that request was made, you used Mr., Mrs., Miss, as required. First names were for your very, very close friends. Other friends and acquaintances, you used their title.

Of course - I meant shortening the full Miss Elizabeth Bennet to just Miss Elizabeth. In Sense and Sensibility, John Dashwood refers to "Miss Lucy Steele" several times (as he is not well acquainted with her) but Lucy Steele, sir John, Mrs Jennings, Fanny and Coronel Brandon refer to her as "Miss Marianne" when in more intimate company.

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« Reply #8977 on: February 01, 2014, 02:49:39 PM »
Didn't husbands and wives address each other formally too? Mr and Mrs Bennet refer to each other as that, even in their own home when Mrs Bennet was whining at him. The same happened with Scarlett's parents in Gone With the Wind.

The only time I can recall the Bennet girls being addressed by their first names was by close friends, their parents and each other.

In Emma, right at the end Mr Knightley offers to Emma for her to call him by his first name after they get engaged. She refuses.
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« Reply #8978 on: February 01, 2014, 03:46:50 PM »
As with friendships, what married couples called each other in private depended more upon the closeness of their relationship than on anything else. Mr. and Mrs. Bennet used formal titles when talking to each other because their marriage was not a close one. Emma's sister Isabella called her husband John by his first name or "my love" (and vice versa) because their marriage was a close one.

The other thing is that, particularly in books about people who are unmarried (such as Jane Austen novels), the main character is more likely than not going to hear people who are married referred to by their titles even by their spouses. To use Emma as an example, it wouldn't surprise me if Mr. and Mrs. Weston used their given names when talking to each other in private. Theirs was a love match, and they are presented throughout the book as happily married and close to each other. But Emma knows them as Mr. Weston and Mrs. Weston (nee Taylor), because she doesn't have the sort of relationship with either of them that allows for using their first names. So even if Mrs. Weston called her husband by his first name in private, she'd refer to him as Mr. Weston when talking to Emma, because that's how Emma knew him.


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« Reply #8979 on: February 01, 2014, 11:09:18 PM »
Also, we don't have any first-hand accounts - only written correspondence and second-hand statements.  The rules were different for written correspondence, though, so it's entirely possible there were married couples who called each other by the first names all the time when in private but still used formal titles for letters and when in front of peers.

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« Reply #8980 on: February 02, 2014, 02:37:06 AM »
I think that at least some contemporary literature would count as at least akin to a first-hand account, though. Authors who intended to write about the society they lived in would have used the norms they were familiar with to inform how society in their novels worked.


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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8981 on: February 03, 2014, 08:42:22 AM »
What does one do to find new music when one doesn't listen to the radio or whatch TV?

I used to be part of a music e-zine when I was younger, plus music forums and stuff like that so it was easy to find out about new bands, but now I feel like I never listen to anything new.

Are there sites where you can reference what you already like and they give you similar artists?
I have a suscription to a service where for a couple dollars every months you have access to streamable music so listening is not a problem, finding something to listen is..

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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8982 on: February 03, 2014, 08:49:32 AM »
What does one do to find new music when one doesn't listen to the radio or whatch TV?

I used to be part of a music e-zine when I was younger, plus music forums and stuff like that so it was easy to find out about new bands, but now I feel like I never listen to anything new.

Are there sites where you can reference what you already like and they give you similar artists?
I have a suscription to a service where for a couple dollars every months you have access to streamable music so listening is not a problem, finding something to listen is..

Pandora and IHeartRadio are two free services I can think of.  There is a bit of a learning curve for the programs though.  You create a station (by artist or song), then they will play similar songs or play songs that others who enjoyed similar music have liked on their stations.  Then you can click that yes Yes I like this new song or no I don't...it may take some time for the program to learn your preferences.  I still can't convince it that I do not like The Red Hot Chili Peppers.
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Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Reply #8983 on: February 03, 2014, 09:10:21 AM »
Spotify is good too, it gives recommendations based on what you've been listening to and shows similar artists. For just a website, I used to like allmusic.com but haven't used it in years so don't know about how good it currently is.

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« Reply #8984 on: February 03, 2014, 02:05:49 PM »
What does one do to find new music when one doesn't listen to the radio or whatch TV?

I used to be part of a music e-zine when I was younger, plus music forums and stuff like that so it was easy to find out about new bands, but now I feel like I never listen to anything new.

Are there sites where you can reference what you already like and they give you similar artists?
I have a suscription to a service where for a couple dollars every months you have access to streamable music so listening is not a problem, finding something to listen is..

Pandora and IHeartRadio are two free services I can think of.  There is a bit of a learning curve for the programs though.  You create a station (by artist or song), then they will play similar songs or play songs that others who enjoyed similar music have liked on their stations.  Then you can click that yes Yes I like this new song or no I don't...it may take some time for the program to learn your preferences.  I still can't convince it that I do not like The Red Hot Chili Peppers.

Seconding Pandora, I've found a lot of good stuff that way. :)
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