I have gotten better at thinking before I speak.
Not *great* at it, mind, but definitely better.
I have broadened my outlook into other's perspectives. I have always tried to look it from the other side, but being here has showed me many, many sides I didn't know existed!
I have learned the power of "No" and have helped pass it on.
If I have made every effort to be polite, respectful and accountable and someone still reacts poorly, then this is not a reflection on me as a person. It does not mean I have failed in my behaviour and I am not responsible for their feelings.
Just because someone drops a hint does not mean I have to pick it up.
I have learned how to better manage passive aggressive behaviour.
Cutting off/reducing contact is not necessarily rude and can be both healthy and freeing.
Sometimes it really is "Not my monkey, not my circus" and I have no obligation to get involved or take it personally.
I have learned that there are people here with whom I almost always disagree, sometimes vehemently.
If they annoy me, I don't have to express it. I can still like and respect them and have meaningful discourse.
If we met in real life, I'm sure our conversations would be very spirited
, but we are both capable of being civilized and that's important.
We will never agree on some things, but it doesn't have to get ugly. Everyone has something valuable to offer.