My friend, lets call her Tracy, and I have been friends for 13 years. I was there when she married her first husband, when she had her child, etc., etc. Well, she tells me that she's met a great guy, wants me to meet him. Fine, so we meet, and he's a nice enough fellow.
Fast forward 3 months, its Christmas, and he's proposing. He calls me for advice on what ring to get. I give him some ideas, as well as her ring size. So Christmas Day, she calls all excited that he proposed. He moves into her and her mother's house, and things appear to be fine.
Fast forward again, 8 months. Its their one-year anniversary. Their wedding date is to be on their two year anniversary, so we've been looking at dresses and venues, flowers and shoes. I get a phone call on a Monday, telling me that I need to take the following Friday afternoon off, because she and "Nicky" are getting married. So I take the time off, schedule an impromptu bachelorette party for the day before the wedding.
Well, the Thursday of the bachelorette party, Nicky gets arrested! He gets bailed out 20 minutes before the jail clerk closes, and we almost didn't have the bachelorette party. So, the wedding goes off, even though the groom almost wasn't there. Everything's hunky dory, till Nicky doesn't show up to a court date that's scheduled. So he gets arrested again, and I'm called upon to provide $500 bail money, as the last time he got arrested wiped them out financially. So being a good friend, I do. She calls me several times a week after this, telling me that she never should have gotten married, its all been a huge mistake. I told her to do what she needed to do, if divorce was the answer, that I would support her 100%.
Its now been 6 months since, and she and I no longer talk, because she was tired of my being unsupportive of her marriage, and that I wasn't supposed to condone divorce. I also haven't been paid back the 500 bucks. The only consolation is he eventually left her, telling her that she had gotten too negative. No kidding, bud. He and I are now really good friends, and talk 3 or 4 times a week, and she's living with her mom and paying off her bills from when he was jailed. So all's well that ends well. I'm just glad I didn't buy them an engagement, housewarming, or wedding gift!
What I'm wondering is, why is the OP friends with this guy. If anyone should be paying back the $500, it should be him since he was the one in jail, right? Meanwhile, Tracy has to live with her mom to make up the money she lost when the guy was in jail, and is apparently too negative? I felt bad for Tracy!