BG (Long Sorry!) I'm not sure if this is the right topic area, feel free to move it
My DH best friend from childhood (HBF) is handicapped. He was in an accident when he was about 10 but can walk and move about under his own power. He has some motion problems and needs help once in a while getting out of the car. My DH and I married before he went into the Army and after he finished boot camp and had gone into AIT (Advanced Individual Training) I had a few opportunities to go visit. He had a rather lengthy AIT so on the third planned visit DH thought it would be a fun idea to have HBF come along. I knew he missed home and readily agreed. They had been friends since they were 7 and even share the same birthday. We agreed to pay for his hotel room since he is unable to work. I should also note he lives at home with his Mom and brother.
At the point this all takes place we've been married for 8 months, separated for 6 months, (because of the Army) and have only seen each other for four days total in that time.
As with all of my trips I planned everything and this time HBF arrangements as well, so we could travel together with out gaps and because he can't drive. I asked for two rooms, (One for us, one for him *this is important later) close together if it was possible. They ended up being spread out because the entire base had leave and the hotel was almost full.
The day for us to depart comes up and I go to pick up HBF. I showed up early to make sure his luggage would be met with TSA Approval, and because at this time especially I would get anxious to see DH and wanted everything to run smoothly. HBF had to change a couple things and while I was waiting I was standing with his mother and aunt in the dining room. We were talking about the hotel and I mentioned that we weren't able to get rooms right next to each other. His mother suddenly gets this horrified look on her face and says "You're not going to being sharing your room with him?!" I was stunned she'd even ask so I didn't say anything for a minute or two. Then I laughed a little then said "Well of course not, HBF has his own room!" HBF's mom and his aunt exchange looks and then she says "He can't have his own room! Can't he stay with you guys?" I honestly didn't understand what she was so concerned about so I just said "Well of course not! He's a grown man!"
BHF then came out and I loaded the bags and we said good-bye to everyone and went on our way. It wasn't until later on the plane, that BHF explained to me he's never had his own room at a hotel, or anytime they've gone somewhere. BHF and DH are both 24 year old guys, and I was shocked by this bit of information. I know BHF has a few disabilities but he's not inept by any means. I asked again when we arrived at the hotel for closer rooms but no luck, everything went fine and BHF had no problems. I can kind of understand her concern, but to ask a newly married couple whose been separated from each other for several months to share a room with another adult? I thought that was insane! What do you guys think?