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Dh faux pas, or just me being sensitive?

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Heavenly:
Christmas eve we went to church with my extended family.  Afterwards, Mr. Heavenly came up to me with a gleam in his eye and proceeded to laughingly tell me of something he had just experienced.

Evidently Mr. H. was walking with my BIL down the hall when a friend of BIL's stopped him and asked if that was his family sitting with him?  "Yes," BIL replied, "My MIL, FIL, SIL and her family."  To this BIL's friend said, "Obviously, you married the beauty in the family."  Mr. H. then stepped in and said, "I would have to disagree with that statement."  and then BIL introduced Mr. H. to friend as his BIL.  This friend mumbled some embarrassed apologies and left quickly.  Mr. H. thought this whole thing was hilarious and couldn't wait to tell me.

I wasn't amused.

In fact, it hurt my feeling pretty good.

This sister is a vivacious, talented, beautiful ex Miss Hometown USA who trains models and IS the acknowledged beauty in the family.  I know I don't compare in the looks category, so the comment wasn't particularly hurtful (it stung a bit because I don't think I'm a hag either).  What hurt my feelings is that Mr. H. would repeat the comment to me.  I really just didn't need to hear it.  KWIM?

Mr. H. normally is a very considerate, loving husband--so this threw me for a loop.

Am I just being sensitive or would this be an etiquette blunder?  I would like to bring this up with Mr. H if it's a blunder, but if I'm just being sensitive--I'll let it slide.

Thoughts? 

scansons:
Sounds like he was just trying to gain some points by letting you know he stood up for you, and thinks you are the beauty of the family.  Although I will admit, awkwardly.  Men. 

freakyfemme:
Your husband stuck his foot in his mouth, but he meant well....he thinks you're beautiful.  I can seriously count on ONE hand the number of times any guy has said that to me, except the loser guys who are just trying to get into my pants, lol.

Alida:
He was trying to be sweet and let you know it, I think.  Give him points for trying ;)

Irish Clovers:
Sometimes men have the best intentions but end up sticking their foot in thier mouths.  My DH does it CONSTANTLY but I'm learning he really doesn't intentionally try to hurt my feelings.  He's just clueless.   ;)

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