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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #15 on: April 03, 2011, 05:04:24 PM »
Since they don't remember his name, I guess they're just trying to describe him the best way they can.  You can correct them by saying something like "I believe you are wanting to speak with Dr. John Jones."

As for your queston, I don't think it's rude to laugh kindly about the doctor looking like Doogie Howser, but it might be rude to keep referring him that way once the patient is corrected with his real name.  I don't think it's nice or respectful to keep saying "I want an appointment with Doogie" once they know his name, KWIM?

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #16 on: April 03, 2011, 05:21:50 PM »
I'm 40 in 2 months and look about 25.  I'm still waiting to be glad I look young.  It's *not a compliment* in any way, shape or form to have your life experience dismissed on a daily basis.  I'm currently working a crap job because of the economy and I detest being told to be glad that I have my whole life ahead of me.  Because, no, no I don't.  I've taken a hard fall like everybody else. I used to own a house.  I've been married and divorced.  I've made good money in the past, and now--not so much.  I detest being told that I'll understand when I'm older.  I detest having a customer make a reference to the 70's or 80's to try to one up me. (It happens on an alarmingly regular basis.)  Out of deference to my boss I rarely correct, and when I do it's a breezy "Oh, I was born in 71" or "I graduated in 89".  Or telling the one-upper exactly how old I was when, say John Lennon was shot or the Challenger blew up, if that's the topic.  I also hate being kidded about "you young kids with your texting and can't put your cel phone down."   See, I hate texting.  I hate the illiteracy that has come with texting.   Most of all, I hate, and am very saddened by the fact that many, many, people seem to go out of their way to put others down on the basis of age or percieved age.

I don't mean to rant, just to put in your head how frustrating this issue can be.  The best thing you can do for your co-worker is to counter the "friendly" remarks (because sometimes these people are bitter about aging and need to take it out on the young and percieved young) with an assurance about his actual age and experience.  You'll be doing everybody who is talked down to because of their appearance a great favor, because if *we* correct, we run the risk of looking defensive.  Maybe an "Actually he's the same age!!!  Can you believe Doogie Howser has been off the air for 20 years now?" would get the point across.

People aren't dismissing your life experience; they simply don't know it's there. And most of the comments to which you refer would be rude even if you were 25, so it's not about looking young, it's about people being social backward.

I for one was floating on air when someone told me they thought I was the same age as my cousin, who is 8 years younger.
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #17 on: April 03, 2011, 05:42:18 PM »
I can say that every patient that I have encountered who referenced Doogie Howser in regards to this PA did not do it to be mean or dismissive of his abilities. You would be surprised at the number of people who simply don't remember which doctor they saw. I always say when told, "I saw this doctor there yesterday and he reminded me of Doogie Howser" "Oh *chuckle* you mean PA's name? Yeah he does, doesn't he?" Also, it's not like this gets referenced every day multiple times a day. In the last week I think I heard the reference once, just to give you an idea.

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #18 on: April 03, 2011, 07:20:41 PM »
I can say that every patient that I have encountered who referenced Doogie Howser in regards to this PA did not do it to be mean or dismissive of his abilities. You would be surprised at the number of people who simply don't remember which doctor they saw. I always say when told, "I saw this doctor there yesterday and he reminded me of Doogie Howser" "Oh *chuckle* you mean PA's name? Yeah he does, doesn't he?" Also, it's not like this gets referenced every day multiple times a day. In the last week I think I heard the reference once, just to give you an idea.

I don't think it's rude at all how you respond when they ask for Doogie Howser. If it was me, I'd feel like you were just being kind and not making me feel stupid for not remembering the PA's name.

And it is certainly a valid point that the older you get, the odder it feels to have your doctors get younger. I remember how weird it felt to realize that I went to high school at the same time as some of my doctors (Hey! You got into MED SCHOOL?) and I've had a couple of doctors since that made me wonder if their mothers knew they were practicing medicine after dark. (They looked really, really young for their ages.)

I get a lot of comments about looking younger than I am. I have no problem taking them as a compliment.

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #19 on: April 04, 2011, 09:13:56 AM »
I can't really weigh in here...I've already had a couple patients call me "Nurse Ratchet".....
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #20 on: April 04, 2011, 09:27:01 AM »
I can't really weigh in here...I've already had a couple patients call me "Nurse Ratchet".....

LOL - that means you're doing a good job!
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #21 on: April 04, 2011, 10:49:49 AM »
I can't really weigh in here...I've already had a couple patients call me "Nurse Ratchet".....

LOL - that means you're doing a good job!

One patient was kidding, one was serious, both were dealing with me enforcing orders they didn't like....:)
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #22 on: April 04, 2011, 12:01:48 PM »
I think she's overreacting a bit. Maybe ask the PA how he feels about it?

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #23 on: April 04, 2011, 12:14:56 PM »
I can't really weigh in here...I've already had a couple patients call me "Nurse Ratchet".....

LOL - that means you're doing a good job!

One patient was kidding, one was serious, both were dealing with me enforcing orders they didn't like....:)


Personally, I would study the movie just so I could quote them a line from it back.  ;D

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #24 on: April 04, 2011, 02:37:30 PM »
You won't stop these references ... what is your co-worker going to do, "tell off" the people that talk about Doogie?

Perhaps the young doctor could reassure her that he doesn't mind (if, indeed, he doesn't).
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #25 on: April 05, 2011, 12:46:08 AM »
I think she's overreacting a bit. Maybe ask the PA how he feels about it?


I agree...if the PA thinks it's a solid funny I say go with it. There are a few comments/jokes/etc that people make about all of us that the outside observer would think cruel that we think are pretty funny ourselves.
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #26 on: April 05, 2011, 01:20:06 AM »
If he looks or sounds like Neil Patrick Harris, it might not be an age reference at all.  Something to consider.

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #27 on: April 05, 2011, 05:30:58 AM »
How come they don't call older doctors "Marcus Welby"?

Or Dr Kildare?
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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #28 on: April 05, 2011, 09:27:20 AM »
I don't think its rude of the patients to refer to the PA as Doogie Howser, but I do think its rude for you to run with it.  Doogie Howser might have been a capable physician but he was a bonafide child.  That was the point of the show, that he was a teenager, not just a young guy, but a guy who hadn't finished puberty.

I think a smile and a friendly "oh you must mean John Smith our physicians assistant" is the polite, and quite honestly professional, response.

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Re: Doogie Howser MD
« Reply #29 on: April 05, 2011, 10:54:59 PM »
How come they don't call older doctors "Marcus Welby"?

Or Dr Kildare?

Dr. Kildare wasn't old.