I used to frequent another (non-etiquette) forum, but have since stopped, because I had attracted my very own personal bully, and nothing I did seemed to help. I've given up on that place, but perhaps eHellions could offer suggestions on what I did and if I could have done anything differently?
So this person just starts responding to any topic I make, and it's never anything nice. I could say I'm going grocery shopping and I plan to buy flowers to brighten things up in here, and she'd say, "I cannot believe you'd buy flowers when you're supposed to be on a budget! That's irresponsible!" I could say we're rehoming our dog because he's been aggressive and we're worried about the baby, and she'd say, "I'd never give up my dog for anyone!" I could say the grass is green, and she'd have something to say about that, somehow. I mean literally anything I said was fair game for her.
At first I tried responding to her. I'd point out, politely, that she was attacking something unfairly, and she'd respond by attacking something else. I told her I didn't know what her problem was but I'd appreciate it if she would stop. She responded by saying she had NO IDEA what I was talking about, and if I wanted to talk about buying flowers in a public forum, she had the perfect right to attack me about it. I finally put her on ignore, but unfortunately I could still see her posts when others quoted her, so that ultimately didn't help much.
So I tried all of that. Talking to the moderators didn't work, because she's their close personal friend. And I received independent confirmation of her over-the-top bullying behavior by other posters, who would respond to her posts with a puzzlement. I received a lot of PMs asking what the heck her problem was!
Eventually I just left, since it's not worth the level of aggravation she was causing. I feel kind of bad about it, though - overall I enjoyed the people and made some friends, and I let a bully push me out. What do you think, eHellions? Did I handle her correctly? Was walking away wimpy or the right choice?