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Cherry:
BG: I'm in college, live in a dorm, and share a suite with three other girls. My one roommate, C, often needs help getting her clothes from the dryer. In our dorm, the washing machine and dryers are stacked - the dryers are on top of the washing machines. C is petite, so she has trouble getting her clothes out of the dryer. She has asked me to get her clothes out of the dryer several times and she's asked our one roommate too. I don't know who she asks when neither of us are in the room.

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A couple of evenings ago, I come back to the suite, and C needs help with her laundry. I assume she means the dryer, but she wants me to help her put clothes in the wash O_o Now she can do this by herself, but she tells me she needs to bleach some things and it takes her a long time to put everything in the wash (she tends to have big loads that barely dry after one hour in the dryer).

To the awkward part :-X

We go to the floor with the laundry room and she wants me to help her put her dirty clothes in the washer. Now, we're all girls and everything, but I don't want to touch someone's dirty laundry. Clean laundry out the dryer is less uncomfortable, but dirty clothes O_O

To the really awkward part: she had her time of the month, so she told me to check for any stains on her jeans. She put bleach on her stained underwear while I was in the room putting jeans, sweaters, and socks in the washers (btw, a couple jeans had underwear in them which I refused to touch). The whole thing was just awkward and uncomfortable as you can imagine. Then she wanted me to put in the detergent which was powder (I always use liquid detergent, so I didn't know if you feed the machine the powder or put it on the clothes). I put the detergent in and went back to my room.

Later on, C asks this girl in our hallway to help her with the laundry (either to put it in or take it out of the dryer). The girl's sister and roommate, my good friend B, came over to our room and told me and my one roommate (our mutual good friend) about it. She didn't think it was appropriate for C to ask people who aren't her roommates to help her get her clothes.

C's a sweet girl, but really. She used to rinse out her time of the month panties in our bathroom and leave it on the sinks' counter to dry. But still, she shouldn't ask anyone to help her put clothes in the washer, even if it takes a long time for her. How should I, or anyone else, bean dip her the next time she asks for help? C is handicap, but she can put her clothes in the washer. Maybe the dryer is harder for her, but this is something she, her parents, and maybe res. life should figure out then.

Ceiling Fan:
"You know, C, I'm really not comfortable handling other people's dirty laundry. Nothing personal, just a quirk of mine"

The thing is, if everyone says this to her, maybe she'll get the hint that it's just not appropriate to be asking.

Also, who puts bleach directly on clothes?

Skoffin:
Eeek. I'm staggered that anyone would even think to ask that of someone else.  ???

I might try "Sorry, I'm not comfortable handling any one elses dirty laundry. I can help you take it from the dryer later on after it has been washed"

Animala:
I rarely get grossed out, but that is just nasty.  If she physically needs help with this part it's time to hire someone to help.

sisbam:

--- Quote from: Animala on April 10, 2011, 04:54:02 PM ---I rarely get grossed out, but that is just nasty.  If she physically needs help with this part it's time to hire someone to help.

--- End quote ---

I don't know about you, but when I was in college, "hiring" someone wuold not have been an option.

I do think that C should talk to her RA or Res Hall Coordinator.

As to what you can say to C: "I'm really sorry, but handling someone else's dirty laundry is really uncomfortable. I can't help you again."

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