Etiquette School is in session! > "What an interesting assumption."

Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket

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SeaSprite:
     A number of weeks ago I was shopping for a junk/movie night that we do maybe once every 6-9 months.
My best friend of 26 years was with me. He has an inoperable/no more operations brain tumor (8 years we have had past his predicted last weeks-YAY!) Well he was on one of those motorized carts. I had a cart and hung my cane on the babyseat along with my oxygen tank.
   Of course in amongst the regular and good for you food, I had junk food and some sodas for the other adults and kids. Like I said once in a blue moon and this was that time, these weren't our regular everyday foods right?
    So this couple walks by and the lady remarks "If my health was that bad I sure wouldn't continue with such a poor diet" And she gave me a death glare and a VERY large huff.Not the first time I have had someone make an assumption. I haven't been able due to health to go get my second fitting for my top dentures. I have had many people assume that because I have no top teeth I lost them to meth!! Makes me want to scream. I lost them due to some very teeth unfriendly side effects. If I hear it again I will definitely use this.
     After reading Kevlar's post and my experience I wonder if the grocery store was the last bastion of social graces and now it is open season. How rude is it to remark on the amount of items (Kevlar) has? having a large bio family and now a mix of 'strays' and bio I get this too. I often reply "yes I am" to 'you could feed an army/you going to feed an army' remarks. And how rude is it to comment on someone else's cart contents?

Spoder:
Wow, that certainly *is* rude! What on earth makes people like that think someone else's groceries are any of their busines?  ???

Good for you for not retaliating.

Raintree:

--- Quote ---And how rude is it to comment on someone else's cart contents?
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Very! Why on earth would they feel this is any of their business? If your health problems were due to a bad diet and you were loading up your cart with the worst food possible, it STILL wouldn't be any of their business. But they are making wild assumptions.

I frequently load up my cart with pre-prepared frozen meals. But it's for my father, who is elderly, lives alone, with mobility problems which prevent his cooking for himself, and needs his freezer stocked with things he can readily heat up and eat for the days when there is nobody there to help him. (I go over there to cook for him frequently, and he also has someone else come in a couple days a week - overall he does eat pretty healthy). I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?" Of course I know! I have my reasons for putting that in my cart. But if anyone actually SAID anything, that would be crossing a line.

Kitty Hawk:

--- Quote from: Raintree on May 05, 2011, 04:43:23 AM --- I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?"

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That's an interesting assumption too, isn't it?  You don't know what they are thinking.

Iris:
I'm afraid EvilIris might escape in that situation and loudly say to my friend "If I was that rude and nosy, I wouldn't go out in public". So kudos to you for keeping your cool. That woman was beyond rude.

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