My husband and I are adopting out of foster care.
We have paid all of our costs, and our total expense was $1,075.
I was wondering about this. I had a friend about 14 years ago do a local adoption with her DH. I remember her stating it cost a few hundred dollars so I've been really thrown by the exorbitant fees being quoted in this thread.
I'd have to agree that if there's a specific type of adoption you are seeking and it costs a lot more than you can afford, then you should come up with the funds yourself (unless, as one poster had mentioned, you have family and friends who are willing and/or volunteer to help you out).
I know a family through church that is trying to adopt. They hold fundraising breakfasts once a month or so, and you go, donate whatever you like (there is no set entry cost), and get some delicious biscuits and gravy out of the deal. They advertise their fundraisers on FB, as well as talk about their adoption journey. I don't have a problem with this at all (though I'm sure others will).
I don't mind fundraisers where something is provided, but, I gotta say, one of the residents at work recently held a fundraiser which, to me, was a disguised money grab. She posted flyers all over our department areas requesting donations of baked goods for her bake sale (she was trying to raise money to volunteer overseas for a good cause). On the same flyer, she requested you also show up and buy lots of baked goods from her. So, essentially, she wanted you to give her something to sell then buy it back from her (so she was out nothing financially). I also looked up the program and while the project costs were covered by donations directly to the program, the money she was needing to raise was for personal expenses (which aren't covered by the program). Hey, I'd like to volunteer overseas, too, but I always looked at it as what it is -- a working vacation. I'd get to see and experience another country, but I'd be doing it for a good cause. It never occurred to me to ask someone else to finance it. Anyway, if she'd only been advertising her bake sale but didn't ask for donations of stuff for her to sell, I wouldn't have had a problem with it. I think the fundraising breakfast is a fine idea unless parishioners were also being asked to provide the breakfast items ready-made then to buy that breakfast back after they hand it over.