This involves an online rel@tionship so I hope this is in the right folder!
I've been a member of a small, private message board for about 6 years now - there are about 50 of us, very tight knit with an IRL get together or two every year. One of the board members posted last month asking for help from one of the Canadian posters - she wanted a food product that isn't available in the US, and was hoping to have one of us send it to her in exchange for some small American thing that we might like. I replied that the product she was looking for was readily available in my area, and that I'd be happy to send it. We PM'd a couple of times and she promised to send me some chocolate bars that my husband likes.
I realized after I agreed to send her a package that the product she wanted was cheap, but heavy...and would cost me about 4 times what it's worth to send it. I figured if I was going to go to the trouble, I would throw in a few Canadian chocolate bars and dollar store goodies for her kids as well. Our kids are the same age so I even had my boys draw pictures for her kids and tuck them in the envelope.
A few weeks pass, and I haven't heard anything. I thought maybe the package had gotten delayed at the border, so I tracked in online and found that the package had been successfully delivered 10 days prior. I sent her a PM on our board asking Hey, did you get the package I sent? I was curious as to what her kids thought of the goodies I'd sent them. The next day I see she has posted on the board, but no reply to my PM. I post a similar message on her Facebook wall. This was 4-5 days ago she's been active on both sites and still, no PM or reply on Facebook.
I'm feeling pretty hurt, and I'm thinking this is turning into one of those "lesson learned, move on" things but I'm wondering if there's any other polite way to deal with this. Like I said, our board is a really tight knit group and it just feels awkward now. I don't care that I didn't get a package from her, I was just hoping for a quick "Hey, thanks for the stuff!". Do I try and contact her again, or just act like nothing happened? (There's no chance I'm going to see her IRL at a get together, as they're always to far away for me to attend.)