I need advice guys! I really like a new guy at work and I'm pretty sure he likes me too but without coming out and saying anything I just don't know, but don't want to push it because we work very closely together and I don't want to ruin that. I do however know he is single. What should I do???
So, he's a freelancer who's in our company 2 days a week and will be for at least the next 4 months. For those 2 days a week we pretty much work one on one, all day, on a project together. My boss, who hired him, told me she thought we'd get on well. I hoped he'd be a cool colleague, but in the 6 weeks he's been here I seem to have developed a major crush. like, weak at the knees crush! It's really unusual for me, and especially because he's completely the opposite of guys I usually go for. Completely.
We've grabbed coffee a couple of times, but always on the run, like while we're on the way to a meeting or something so there wasn't time to sit and chat like that. I often catch him smiling at me, in a private joke kind of way, when we happen to be dealing with other people. He smiles at me a lot in fact and has leant on me a few times when he wants to say something he doesn't want someone else there to overhear. Also the other day we were on our way somewhere when he remembered something he'd left in his office. I waited down in reception for him and when he got back downstairs he had this cheeky grin and said 'so, did you miss me?'. I laughed, said yes and he raised his arms and cheered. So I was thinking, ok, it seems like he wants me to like him, this is good.
Today we had nothing special lined up for the morning so were in our respective offices and it was driving me crazy that he didn't pop by to say hi. Eventually, at lunchtime I had to forward an email to him anyway and he replied straight back calling me 'S' (my initial) and cracking a joke and finishing with a smiley face. I replied back that I was popping out to grab a sandwich and did he want anything (thinking, hint, come join me) but he replied that he had stuff already and was watching his figure!
OK, so I decided to drop by his office on my way back in with my sandwich and he asked me to sit down cos he was eating lunch as well. So we chatted easily for about 30 minutes and then he got a phone message on his mobile. He said he needed to make a few phone calls so I got up and said I would head back to my desk. He asked could he have my mobile number - so he could call me when he was done and we could head over to our next appointment. Now, there is no need to have my private mobile, I have a phone on my desk in my office. I gave it to him of course!
So, he called me on my mobile to let me know I should come downstairs cos he was ready to go. We were filming an open day thing at our company so not much opportunity to chat but plenty of smiley looks over at me etc while he was wandering around filming stuff. Then we went back up to his office at 3.30pm and chatted for 2 hours while he uploaded tapes to the computer. Covered his time at uni, his masters degree, how he got into the job, his living situation, his family, pets, TV shows, what I've done for uni and jobs up to now, where I live, he casually dropped friends who had kids and liking kids into the conversation, what sort of travelling we like doing, plans for the rest of the week (he will be at other jobs), he has an injured foot from playing football, all kinds of stuff. Everytime we had something in common he had a big grin.....Yay.
Also, while he was fiddling with the computer at the beginning of the conversation (setting up the camera to attach to it to upload tapes) he said that he hoped I didn't think the lack of eye contact meant he wasn't listening and just because he was doing something with the camera didn't mean I should leave, in case I thought that, and smiled :-)
Eventually realised it was 5.30pm and he had to go and meet his friend for a lift home. Stood in the corridor briefly and he told me to have a good week, see me Monday, again a big smile.
So, ok I feel positive! But then bit of me thinks maybe he's just friendly and I am reading too much in to it. Maybe he's just being nice because he wants us to have a good working relationship.
How do I feel this out? If he's not that into me, how do I deal, I don't want to look like an idiot by coming on too keen? If he is interested, but he's shy especially as he is in the position of outsider to the company and we work together, how do I show him it would be ok if he asked me out?