I went on a date with a guy who spent the whole time talking about his ex girlfriend and the fact that he loved her and still had her pictures up in his apartment and that he looked at one every night before he went to bed. he then invited me back to said apartment for a game of "scrabble" and became upset when i turned him down telling me that I could have been the one to help him finally get over her. One of the weirder this was he later called my and left a message talking about what a great time he had on our date and asking me out again
I've been on so many dates like this. What IS it about people talking about exes on dates? Nothing good can be had from it. If they slam on their ex, they end up looking like a bitter whiny child and who wants to date that? And if they talk about how much they miss them and wish they were still together, well, why are they on a date with me?
I'm afraid I was guilty of this once. I was going through a divorce with my first wife, and it was a difficult time for me. We had been separated for over a year when I decided I was ready to go out and start dating
, but I guess I wasn't quite there yet.
I met this lady through Parents without Partners and we hit it off. I got her number called her and we went out on a date. We went out to eat and then to the movies. I called her the next day to tell her I enjoyed our date and asked her if she would like to go out again. She told me she would like to go out again, but only one on condition, I shouldn't talk so much about my ex (or soon to be ex, the divorce was not yet final). I was embarrassed because I did not realize I had talked so much about her, I did apologize and she agreed to go out with me again.
It was kind of ironic because the next time we were going to go out it turned into a non date. Since it was a second date and I didn't want to make her uncomfortable, I told her I would meet up with her at a dance club where PWP was having a get together. (We had done that on the first date as well, I met her at a Mexican restaurant, and the movie theater was right across the parking lot from where we ate.)
A little background here. The first night we met we were at a C/W dance club. I was talking with some friends and one of my friends knew her and introduced me. We all started talking and she was telling us how upset she was with a guy she had been dating
. He was a member of PWP and was there that night, and he was completely ignoring her, acting like he didn't know her. They weren't necessarily exclusive, but they had been seeing a lot of each other, so I could see where she would be put out with him with the way he was acting towards her.
When we went out on our first date, she did mention that she was not seeing this guy anymore and that was about the extent of it.
So the night we were supposed to meet up for our second date, I got to the club around 7:00pm and start looking to see if she had arrived, there she was sitting at a table with about five other people, sitting next to the guy she said she wasn't going to see anymore. She said hi, but it was obvious she was with the guy, so I hung out for about thirty minutes shooting pool and drinking a few beers and then I left. I felt kind of stupid.
A month or so later I was out again with some friends at PWP and this woman was there, she wasn't with anyone and she came up to me and said come on lets go dance. I politely declined.