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I had gotten in the habit of stopping at a particular gas station on my way to work, to get a cup of coffee. (I can't make good coffee at home. I've given up.) Almost every day, the same cashier is there, and there is a man who hangs out in the store and talks to her. Frequently, he has something to say to me when I come up to the register. It would be fine if he were saying, "Good morning," but it's usually along the lines of, "Smile!" or "Aren't you excited to go to work?" or some version of him telling me to smile.

Now, I do offer the cashier a polite smile and a greeting, but I don't think I'm required to walk around grinning all the time. I struggle with depression and mornings are often very difficult for me. I do my best. It's not like I'm scowling at anyone, but a blank expression is all I can manage on some days.

Usually, I give him no response other than a brief, nervous smile. But that isn't going to stop his comments. Last week, he outright stared at me without saying anything. I glanced up at him, and he continued to stare openly. I haven't been back to the gas station since then. The problem is that it's the only place that's convenient for me to get a cup of coffee on my way to work.

I don't know what to say. I'm certainly not going to explain to a complete stranger why I don't look happy. And I really didn't know what to say to the staring. Help?

Curly Wurly Doggie Breath:
ughh, shivers down my spine.

I detest being to 'Smile'

But, the guy Staring at you, not saying anything... ugh, Creepy.

Disclaimer, i am not calling him a creep, just his behavior. Yes, there is a difference lol

You sound like me. I don't wake up (really wake up) till around 12N and my body/face reflect that. Corny, I know, but I think if it were me, I would fight this one with humor: "I AM smiling. You don't like my smile?" Because it sounds like you're gonna have to "live" with this guy during your coffee run, and the sooner you 2 reach common ground, the better...

I hate it when vendors get conversational in the morning.  The guys at the gas station I went to used to ask for the location of my office and notice when I varied my method of payment ("No credit card this morning, eh?")  I wish there was a polite way to say "Look, just serve me my dang coffee."

And you know, I have never seen the cashier smile, ever. She's always complaining to the guy about something or other. And half the time she doesn't even return my greeting.

It seems like the owners/manager wouldn't want some random person hanging around near the register every day, bothering the customers.


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