I hope that you all can help me out with a question. In a few weeks, I am co-hosting a low-key bachelorette evening for a good friend. I am taking responsibility for the food and drinks, and providing the location. The evening will involve a small group (10) of ladies getting together for Mexican food and chatter. The party is on a week night.
The bride-to-be is a very, very sweet woman of very strong convictions. One of her convictions has to do with people driving after consuming alcohol. She never drives after having even one drink, and would prefer that others do the same. For the record, she never forces her own opinion on anyone and she does not have a problem with alcohol in general. I know about this conviction from a conversation that she and I had on an evening where neither of us was drinking.
So here's my question: what should I do about serving drinks? Since this is a bachelorette party, I think most of the women attending will expect cocktails. That is the norm in our circle. However, in deference to the bride, I would like to change it up a bit.
Would it be rude of me to provide margaritas/sangria during dinner only? I would just serve pitchers with the meal so that people could drink as many/few as they pleased. When dinner was over, I would just whisk the pitcher away with the rest of the dinner dishes. And then, for the remainder of the evening, I'd provide punch, iced tea, coffee, water, and a variety of sodas. (These would all be available during dinner as well.)
What do you all think? Is this rude? If the consensus is that it is rude, should I provide both all evening? Or should I just cut the alcohol from the menu?
Thank you all for your help!