Thank you everyone. I can't get over how wishy-washy I sounded. What's interesting to me in the land of d@ting is how difficult it has been to nail down times and get-togethers. I have had a couple of men tell me they fully didn't expect a plan to play out, and when I text and say, "I'm on my way," they're rushing to get changed and get out there. I have been stood up, and I have tried to make plans when they bail last minute, or they simply won't commit. I had one tell me, he's really stopped trying. He waits for the woman he is communicating with to ask him and be fully committed to meeting, as he's tired of all the dancing around and wishy-washy commitment and inability to actually show up, if not just find a day and time, when he asks.
It's just bizarre. Why get on a site to date when you don't have the time to date? There are other issues like fraud or money-digging, other bad things, that you have to spend some time vetting people out, but wow, I can't get over some of the crap.
It didn't occur to me that he may have been "hinting" he really wasn't into it. I really don't think that's the case, but rather more in a "me" phase, and he complained about similar scenarios above, so he's just basically seeing what happens. Of course once plans were in full swing, he could have done more. I think "booty call" would probably be more accurate. There's another "issue" that popped up with him, that is a bit of a deal breaker for me. We have been in a bit of communication following that bad d@te, and I said, "If you don't want to do "this," we probably shouldn't do "that," either, so let's just meet after work one day or go see a movie." It's been silence for a few days. Booty call. His profile states he is interested in something serious and long-term, but I'm thinking booty call.
Thanks for setting me straight. Sometimes we make excuses for people because we just can't see the forest for the trees or blame ourselves as being unreasonable.