He's not all the way there yet, and but he's working on it and coming here for advice on how to do it right. I know I can't be the only one who wants to hide under the bed thinking of how I was as a teen.
He didn't come for advice. He posted to show off how he'd shot down someone and put them in their place. While "P" was a boor.. the OP had a few opportunities to be the bigger person and/or show that he really has come a long way.
P: Hey, can you give me a ride to A's?
Me: Didn't you drive here?
P: Yeah but I decided I want to drink now. You have a spare seat right? Just give me a lift.
Me: Why would I want to do that?
P: Why not? Don't be a d*ck about it At this point, the OP could have said "Because my fiancee overheard you insulting me throughout the meal. I think I'm justified in turning you down, based on that alone"
Me: I doubt Tallfiancee will give you a lift. You drove yourself here and you can drive yourself to A's
P: Why are you such a jerk? What did I do to you? "You insulted me nonstop throughout the meal"
Me: I'll see you over there.
This interaction could have gone better and the OP could have actually let "P" know that his actions had consequences. Instead it seems like more of the bickering nonsense they had in HS, with the OP 'coming out on top' - and based on the substance of the OP and subsequent responses, it seems like that was the intention to which I took umbrage.
Posts like that are helpful advice. "This is what you did wrong, and here's what you could have done better." Not "You're a jerk, you're arrogant, and I don't like how you describe your girlfriend," which is the attitude I was getting from some other posts.
I'm w/ Amalthea that this is helpful
I think the 'this is how you could improve' does way more than speculating at one's motive for posting. Seeing the motive as arrogance is any reader's prerogative but my hackles go up when perception of motive is stated as fact when it's quite clear that other posters see the motive differently.
I just re-read all of the posts, no where was he called a jerk. People said that they noticed that he referenced his hot girlfriend quite often. It is unnecessary and adds zero to the discussion, the same would be said if someone constantly referred to their SO as short and ugly. His attitude does come across arrogant, I don't see how that is harsh, it is no different than if you said someone was snarky or defensive.
I'm not sure that the italics isn't unfairly applied here.
For years, I've referred to my pets w/ silly descriptors here on ehell (El Gato the Splendiferious, Pupus the fuzzybutted-cuteness) without it ever coming up. I'm sure it probably annoys as many people as find it cute.
I'm not sure why it's coming up for this poster when similar things are said here on a pretty regular basis and no one has batted an eye.
