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Consent and A Cup Of Tea

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  • Andi December 7, 2015, 7:54 am


  • girl_with_all_the_yarn December 7, 2015, 9:24 am

    Consent should be the first rule of etiquette. Period, full stop, no more questions asked.

  • Lerah99 December 7, 2015, 9:37 am

    I really love this video.
    It’s such a simple and clear explanation.

  • technobabble December 7, 2015, 10:35 am

    This is a good video and a good message that can’t be shared enough.

  • Michelle December 7, 2015, 11:08 am

    I think that’s actually a pretty good video. Am I bad because it made me laugh?

    • Devin December 7, 2015, 5:41 pm

      I think that is what makes it so perfect. It really puts a hard subject in a light manner. I think this should be shared to all young adults (and ‘grown-ups’ too). Its crazy to think that in the US, consent laws protecting people in marriages were still in effect less than 20 years ago.

  • Karen December 7, 2015, 3:51 pm

    I’ve shown this exact video, only with an American accent, to US college students. I could not design a better tool- it’s gender, age and race non specific, it leaves no room for doubt or argument, and the design is so simple and clean that you aren’t caught up with the graphics.

    Michelle, it’s designed to make you chuckle- but also for you to truly understand the concept of clear and obvious affirmative consent. “No means No” is not enough- wait for yes.

  • Bellyjean December 7, 2015, 8:44 pm

    Thank you for sharing this video. Excellent analogy.

  • Anonymous December 7, 2015, 11:03 pm

    I first heard this at an International Women’s Day event this past March, where they, coincidentally, also served tea……consensual tea, only for people who wanted it. Anyway, I have to ask, is “tea” going to become E-Hell’s new euphemism for $ex, rather than “Scrabble?”

    • admin December 8, 2015, 4:58 am

      I was thinking the same thing.

      • Anonymous December 8, 2015, 8:21 am

        I’m not sure if it’s going to catch on, because some people here hail from cultures where people drink a LOT of tea, or where “morning tea” is a thing.

        • Weaver December 9, 2015, 8:39 am

          I thought the same thing, Anonymous. There are enough occasions where people mention drinking tea in their posts or comments, and do actually mean drinking tea 🙂

  • Jessa December 8, 2015, 2:33 am

    The only thing I would have probably added as it’s the biggest one where people get messed up about consent is:

    If they say yes to tea, and start drinking the tea, and then decide to stop at half a cup, you still don’t make them drink tea. Because that’s not the same as changing their mind before they drink it, or falling unconscious after drinking either. And a lot of jerky people think that if the person says yes and you start tea, you’re not allowed to change your mind halfway through tea.

    • Weaver December 9, 2015, 8:41 am

      I agree Jessa, that was the only omission I can think of, but overall it’s a great video.

  • Mojo December 8, 2015, 2:51 am

    Very well put, and now I want a cup of tea.

  • Laura Payne December 8, 2015, 9:53 am

    This was used at my daughter’s College orientation. It’s fabulous!

  • Lacey December 8, 2015, 11:21 am

    Love this. Thank you.