My spouse and I were trying to have our second child and by this point we had already lost 9 babies. We had one beautiful daughter and we really thought about just giving up and not having any more children as losing 9 babies is tough. Our daughter begged us to please try for one more. We used a fertility doctor to help with artificial insemination (better results) and at the time of our folicular ultrasound we found out that we had 5 eggs all the same size so there was a chance that we would have multiples. We were SO excited. A multiple birth would mean we would be done with just one more pregnancy. I called my sister to tell her the exciting news (we weren’t at insemination point yet, just looking to see how many eggs we had) and as I was telling her that we had 5 great looking, same size eggs, she interrupts with, “Oh my gosh, if you have multiples I have a friend who for sure will take some of the kids off your hands. They have 6 adopted kids and they want more but the adoption agencies won’t let them have anymore.”
I was STUNNED silent. This is a woman who KNOWS how many babies we had lost, how hellish it was to even get through the one pregnancy I managed to keep. And she’s trying to give my babies away before they are even a reality? I get that her friend wants more kids, but she has 6 already! I had one. We would have happily have added multiples to our family. As it turned out, only one egg made it and we have a beautiful son. 1123-15
People say stupid, insensitive, poorly thought out things all the time. You do, too. Let it go…words in the wind….your sister probably cringes at the thought of what she said now.